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Old 02-09-2013, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Delray Beach
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I live in Fl and my niece is marrying in NYC in early May.
I have been invited to the bridal shower in March.
She and her fiancee have lived together in his co-op apt on 36st for the past couple of years.
They are well-paid professionals and want for nothing.
I will be attending the wedding but will not fly north for the shower.
Is it customary to buy a shower gift even though I will not be present?
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Old 02-09-2013, 09:34 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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A gift is not required, but would be a nice gesture if you are close to your niece.
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Old 02-09-2013, 11:15 PM
 
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I always buy a gift even if I don't attend (which I never do if they are women only). I don't think there is protocol except obviously if you attend you should give a gift.
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Old 02-10-2013, 06:06 PM
 
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For a niece, yes, I would send a gift and also make to sure RSVP that you won't be attending. That's a close relationship in my mind.

Most brides have signed up for a bridal registry which may be indicated in the invitation. You're under no obligation to purchase a gift that is on the registry. Send what you like.

In today's world, you'll find many brides have been living with their grooms for years and as you said want for nothing. In the last few showers I have been to, such couples are working on their good china and silverware and the bridal registries have been for Tiffany's and other high end stores.

Gone are the days, when a shower was to set up a kitchen with toaster, blender, etc. Now they want cappuccino machines.
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Old 02-11-2013, 07:00 AM
 
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Since you're the aunt, I would send a gift.

It is hard nowadays to buy for people who have everything, live together, etc., but the fact that they're both well paid and want for nothing doesn't mean you don't give gifts. Give from the heart, not the wallet. Is there something you could make instead of purchase from a store, something more meaningful than an item off a registry?
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Old 02-11-2013, 08:19 AM
 
Location: Washington, DC area
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I've never been able to attend a bridal shower. I've always been living or traveling out of town when my friends had theirs and I never sent a gift. I just attended the wedding (and sometimes the bachelorette!!) and gave a gifts for those events. I would normally say no gift necessary but since you're her aunt, maybe you should either send a gift or reach out to the bridesmaids to help with something related to the shower.
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Old 02-16-2013, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Delray Beach
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Thanks to all.
I took your advice and sent a gift and it felt right.
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