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So, how were the guests invited to the shower I wonder. Did she do phone invitations? Then she could do phone thank yous.
If she mailed out invites, she already has the addresses and is being lazy.
The invitations were mailed. Maybe she should have included a note with the invitation asking each guest to bring a self addressed stamped envelope to the shower.
Since the biggest pain-in-the-a$$ in writing out tons of thank-you cards is addressing the envelopes, this seems like forcing the gift-giving guests to do half the dirty work of sending the thank-you card.
Next they be having guests fill in their own thank you cards (like Mad Libs):
Dear: ______________ thank you so much for the ___________________! I'm certain it will come in handy!
Love, lazy bride/mother to be________________________
Guests can also be asked to bring their own stamps too, while they're at it!
Showers are annoying enough without this kind of crap.
Showers are annoying enough without this kind of crap.
LOL, for once I agree with you. I hate showers. Only once did I ever receive a thank-you card from one, and that was a family member's shower.
Even worse than friend/family showers are co-worker showers. When did this crap start? I have a hard and fast rule...I do not attend or give gifts at any co-worker's shower of any kind, for any reason. No exceptions. It galls me that people whom I work with and do not really speak to on a personal level expect me to buy them a present just because they're getting married (and I'm not invited to the wedding), or some high-up executive is popping out kid #2 and I'm expected to get a gift for someone who not only earns 3-4x what I do, but whose guts I cheerfully loathe?
Uh...no. No gifts for any coworkers for any reason, EVER.
Since when does the bride invite people to her bridal shower? Isn't that the maid of honor's job? Plus, with people sending/RSVPing to invitations through wedding websites and FB pages, you don't need to have their mailing address to invite them.
Yup, and at my sister's shower, the maid of honor handed my sister an envelope marked "our little secret", and inside were all the envelopes for the thank-you notes, already addressed.
Oh, I love baby showers. Love shopping for them (such CUTE things these days), love looking at all the little gifts...
Bridal showers, though, are outdated, purpose-wise. Many brides (not all, though) these days have lived on their own for quite a while (grooms too), and already have a completely outfitted kitchen, bath, etc. Not like decades ago when people really started out with nothing -- then these showers really served a purpose.
Yup, and at my sister's shower, the maid of honor handed my sister an envelope marked "our little secret", and inside were all the envelopes for the thank-you notes, already addressed.
That is a lovely idea! While I hope to NEVER be a Matron of Honor again (already served that role three times), I wish I would have thought of this simple, yet thoughtful, "gift" for the bride.
I have been to a couple of showers where envelopes for thank you cards were passed out and each guest was supposed to address one. I hated it. Tacky!!!!!
I hated it even more when one time, my cousin and I were jointly holding a shower for a young woman who was marrying another one of our cousins. I'd met this young woman a couple of times; she was from the south and seemed very sweet and mannerly.
At the last minute, my co-host-cousin couldn't make it, but she left ME with instructions to pass out envelopes for everyone to address. I was mortified! I didn't want to ask people to do that!! I didn't want the guest of honor to feel like I was implying she didn't have sufficient manners to write thank you cards if we didn't get the job started for her. I refused to do it, but someone else was aware of the plan and she passed them out.
I always thought this is what the guest book was for. If you attend, you sign the guest book, write a small anecdote if you want and leave your address.
My sister from out of state sent gifts to my children when they were young. I addressed envelopes and had them write their own thank you's. They are the only ones she has ever received from ANYONE.
Why is it simple manners are becoming extinct? No wonder people are so depressed or filled with rage. We are losing our civility.
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I didn't want to ask people to do that!! I didn't want the guest of honor to feel like I was implying she didn't have sufficient manners to write thank you cards if we didn't get the job started for her. I refused to do it, but someone else was aware of the plan and she passed them out.
