Differences between "wedding ring", "engagement ring", 'promise ring", 'couple rings" in western culture. (proposed, wear)

[oregonwoodsmoke]

I had to go and google to see if students still buy class rings. The answer is yes. ishe, it is a ring that carries your initials and the date that you will graduate from school. Usually in the center is a stone the color of your school colors.

The shape is traditional, without much variation. The class ring is easily identifiable as a class ring.

However, I have no idea whether or not class rings are still given to indicate going steady.

[ishe]

You misunderstood. It not 'class ring", it "couple rings"

btw, I am 30, my boyfriend is 29, we both are two Financial Independent adults with our own jobs. We are NOT students anymore, we're old, lol

[Dewdroplet76]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

If your boyfriend initiated you both wearing rings to note your commitment, cool. It doesn't matter if there is a traditional precedent set for it, a special name for it, or not. It's just something he wanted to do in solidarity.

I agree. "Couple rings" aren't really a thing in western culture. I have known a couple of couples that had them - but they were just rings that they thought were nice and wanted to wear together. But it doesn't matter. It's however you choose to view it.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by ishe

You misunderstood. It not 'class ring", it "couple rings"

btw, I am 30, my boyfriend is 29, we both are two Financial Independent adults with our own jobs. We are NOT students anymore, we're old, lol

IMO, I don't see the point of "couple rings". It sounds like a scam invented by an industry to bilk you out of money you don't need to be spending. I'd never even heard of such a thing until this thread. You don't require a physical symbol of a dating commitment that looks like wedding bands but isn't. To each their own though.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by ishe

I have a question. Please forgive this Chinese-American girl due to she don't know much about 'western' culture when it come to the difference between 'wedding ring', 'engagement ring', 'promise ring' and 'couple rings', etc...

okay, pardon me but in my Chinese culture 'engagement ring" is not something common, it more of a 'western thing and Chinese later adapt it.
From what I know "engagement ring" is usually the guy buy for the girl to wear. He "officially" propose, and give her the 'engagement ring" as a promise to married her.

Usually this "engagement ring" type would have a diamond/crystal or some sort of rock on it. The girls love it, and show their engagement ring to her family and friends, BUT I only see the girl wear it. Does the guy buy himself an 'Engagement ring" and wear it too?
It is like a 'pair' of engagement ring that BOTH wear it, or just one engagement ring for the girl to wear only? I'm kindda confuse.

"promise ring" is for the younger generation type, like high school/college, early twenties type of people. It is similar to 'engagement ring' where the guy buy it for the girl to wear. He showing a promise to her, and an engagement ring would come next.

As for "wedding rings", this I know, so no need explaination on that. Whether it Chinese or American culture, wedding rings is all the same meaning.

The "couple rings". My BF have NOT 'officially" propose to me yet. But he bought a pair of matching rings for us. I guess it called "couple band rings" according to the western culture right? Someone say it like a mutual commitment type of rings right?

But how are 'couple rings' suppose to look like to others western culture couples? Anyone here wear couples band rings before? which hand/finger suppose to wear it on? Or is my BF a freak?
Are 'couple rings' just plain gold band like the 'wedding' band? He just got us the plain band type with No design, No rock on it, just simple plain matching band.
It the thoughts that count and I appreciate him for it.

I LOVE THIS QUESTION! (bolded) It's not a bad idea! But the engagement ring is for the woman to wear. I don't know what happens in cases where it's the woman who proposes. She doesn't buy her guy an engagement ring. Does she buy herself a ring? lol! Maybe there's no engagement ring in those cases.

Forget about promise rings, couple rings. You're making it too complicated. I've never heard of couple rings. If there's no engagement, and your bf bought matching "couple rings", it's probably because he wants to brand you as "taken", so no other guys will flirt with you. He's marking his territory. Does he have controlling tendencies? Just wondering.

[RedZin]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

I LOVE THIS QUESTION! (bolded) It's not a bad idea! But the engagement ring is for the woman to wear. I don't know what happens in cases where it's the woman who proposes. She doesn't buy her guy an engagement ring. Does she buy herself a ring? lol! Maybe there's no engagement ring in those cases.

Forget about promise rings, couple rings. You're making it too complicated. I've never heard of couple rings. If there's no engagement, and your bf bought matching "couple rings", it's probably because he wants to brand you as "taken", so no other guys will flirt with you. He's marking his territory. Does he have controlling tendencies? Just wondering.

Well, after he bought the rings, he offered to take her down to the courthouse for a marriage license, so I think he really just would like to get married but he knows her mom doesn't like him, so he's leaving it up to ishe to decide.

Problem is, ishe wants the romantic proposal deal.

I think that she needs to talk to her BF.

Sample conversation:

ishe: Remember when you bought us these rings and said you'd take me down to the courthouse to get a marriage license?

ishe's BF: Yes, I remember.

ishe: Were you trying to ask me to marry you?

ishe's BF: (Answers the question and she knows what he meant)


I think this is the best possible option.

He'll either tell her he was serious or he wasn't.

He'll either propose right then or tell her he's not interested in marriage and/or wants to wait until they have more money or her mom likes him or whatever.

One never knows until one asks.

I remember that my first husband mentioned that he nearly bought me an engagement ring. I asked him why he'd be buying one of those and he said because he wanted to marry me.

We were married within a week.

Eloped. It was probably not a great idea, but we were very young. Point being, it's always best to ask if you're unclear of someone's intentions.

[ishe]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

If there's no engagement, and your bf bought matching "couple rings", it's probably because he wants to brand you as "taken", so no other guys will flirt with you. He's marking his territory. Does he have controlling tendencies? Just wondering.

No, he is not controlling at all. He is a loving and caring BF.

It just I have a little difficult situation regarding my mother disapproval of him, because he is not Chinese.
But don't mind her. I been out on my own over a decade, I don't live with her, I don't use a penny of her money; she CAN'T control over who I date.
She just think that she is "mommy", and being mommy she thinks she still can control all her children lives forever.

The rings come along with the" "If you want, we can go apply for a marriage marriage liscense tomorrow."
I just didn't know how serious he is, because to me an 'official proposal' is the words of: "would you married me" ------- and he have NOT say these words to me yet.

There are things in my Chinese culture that I was raise with. I will NOT say to his face the: "I want you to officially propose to me"
That is out of the question. I do NOT go beg for a proposal from a man. I will NOT force a man walk down the aisle.
I will NOT force out the "will you marry me" words from him neither. He have to "naturally" say it out on his own willing. And if he not saying these words, I will never consider it to be an "official" proposal.

since we just a poor couple with no assets, i don't mind the simple courthouse/registration type of wedding. But I'm just waiting for him to drop the words I want to hear, the 'would you marry me'

well i know him 4 years already, this year is going on year 5
but half of that time we were just 'good friends'. We were 'friends prior to dating' , I should have known this guy is the most UNROMANTIC guy!!

[ishe]

And thank you Ms. RedZin for your advice regarding how the conversation I should be trying to aim at him. Noted, and will try to do that when he throw out the "marriage liscense" sentence again.

Oh Ms. RedZin,
Last time I asked him what he means about the sentence: "If you want, we can go apply for a marriage liscense tomorrow."
And he answered me that he means exactly what he said; we can go apply for marriage liscense tomorrow if I want.
And he ask me if I want? And I haven't answer him back.

See, you see how unromantic this boyfriend of mine is? He just not giving me the "official" proposal wording.
Where is the "would you marry me?" ----- this is the OFFICIAL proposal words I'm yearning for.

since we just a poor couple with no assets, i don't mind the simple courthouse/registration type of wedding. But I'm just waiting for him to drop the words I want to hear, the 'would you marry me'

this bf of mine is very UNROMANTIC!!!!

[ishe]

well this thread is not about me and my bf.

I want to know the Differences between "wedding ring", "engagement ring", 'promise ring", 'couple rings" in western culture.

And if anyone can share their proposal stories, please share.

To the ladies, can you share how your husband propose to you?
To the gentlements, can you share how you propose to your wife?
Was the proposal romantic? Did the wedding have both sides of the families give their blessing?

When I see other people happy in their marriage, I also feel happy. I think they are fortunate and I admire them alot.

[RedZin]

Originally Posted by ishe

And thank you Ms. RedZin for your advice regarding how the conversation I should be trying to aim at him. Noted, and will try to do that when he throw out the "marriage liscense" sentence again.

Oh Ms. RedZin,
Last time I asked him what he means about the sentence: "If you want, we can go apply for a marriage liscense tomorrow."
And he answered me that he means exactly what he said; we can go apply for marriage liscense tomorrow if I want.
And he ask me if I want? And I haven't answer him back.

See, you see how unromantic this boyfriend of mine is? He just not giving me the "official" proposal wording.
Where is the "would you marry me?" ----- this is the OFFICIAL proposal words I'm yearning for.

since we just a poor couple with no assets, i don't mind the simple courthouse/registration type of wedding. But I'm just waiting for him to drop the words I want to hear, the 'would you marry me'

this bf of mine is very UNROMANTIC!!!!

Here's what you need to say...

"If you're proposing marriage, can you get down on one knee or something? I like romance!"

Then, smile at him so he knows you love him and you'd say yes.

I tell you, ishe, you need lessons on how to wake up that man's inner romantic.