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1. Does either of you have enough financial savings to temporarily buffer a wedding and all of the financial responsiblities of starting a new life together, for at least one year?
2. Will you be okay with delaying the wedding, and understanding that it may be delayed several months? even a year?
I personally would delay the wedding. While the desire to be married would be still an important one, deciding to do the selfless thing, and placing his wants/needs first, is more important than any ceremony right now. Until he has a stable job, he will not and cannot feel like he is in the financial position to take on a wife.
Being unemployed is so stressful. Doing so alone is horrible. Doing so, while being married, is exponentially worse.
Why on earth would you call off the wedding? What would happen if he was laid off a week after the wedding? You'd get a divorce?
A week before the wedding is too late to get deposits back on anything having to do with the wedding, so cancelling wouldn't be a cost-saving measure.
Getting married should be a happy time. Making him think you are having second thoughts about him because he was laid off won't do anything to alleviate his stress.
1. Does either of you have enough financial savings to temporarily buffer a wedding and all of the financial responsiblities of starting a new life together, for at least one year?
2. Will you be okay with delaying the wedding, and understanding that it may be delayed several months? even a year?
I personally would delay the wedding. While the desire to be married would be still an important one, deciding to do the selfless thing, and placing his wants/needs first, is more important than any ceremony right now. Until he has a stable job, he will not and cannot feel like he is in the financial position to take on a wife.
Being unemployed is so stressful. Doing so alone is horrible. Doing so, while being married, is exponentially worse.
Delay the wedding.
True. Delaying the wedding is an option. But if you a big list of guests who are coming out of town who made commitments, time and money to attend your celebration. That can make it a bigger mess in having to tell them that the wedding is off right???
Why on earth would you call off the wedding? What would happen if he was laid off a week after the wedding? You'd get a divorce?
A week before the wedding is too late to get deposits back on anything having to do with the wedding, so cancelling wouldn't be a cost-saving measure.
Getting married should be a happy time. Making him think you are having second thoughts about him because he was laid off won't do anything to alleviate his stress.
Good grief.
Yes delaying a wedding can become a nightmare as well if you have friends and family who committed their time and money to go to this event. Right?
Why would you call off the wedding? It's too late to get back any deposits, that money is already gone. If you can save on anything, do it, and go to the JOP instead, but either way, you are supposed to be a team.
I guess I just don't understand why you would cancel it just over him losing his job. Isn't that like saying he's not worthy anymore?
I'd go through with it. It's still a celebration of your love with your family and friends (which may be good for his wounded ego,) and you won't get your deposits back.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 05-19-2015 at 11:38 AM..
You laid out cash most likely for invitations, venue and food.
Maybe you might get a partial refund at this late date, but very doubtful.
The invitations are a done deal, the rest, not sure.
Treat it like the celebration you have been waiting for.
Maybe someone there might even have a job waiting or know someone who is hiring.
Meantime, if he can collect UE and you are still working, go through with it and party like there's no tomorrow.
Sorry to hear about this.
Congratulations on the special day but sorry about the job loss.
What would you do if the layoff came a month into the marriage... divorce?
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