Did you Invite your family to your Wedding? (fiance, husband, fighting)
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I have a toxic family. I ran away from home at 16 years of age due to the drug use, fighting, teasing, abuse, and lack of support at home. I felt that on my own I could find a away to provide for myself since my family was unable to, and I did. I was raised for the most part by my grandmother, but I never agreed with the environment that she allowed us to be raised in. There is a part of me that feels resentment and disappointment towards them. My father I do not speak to; he was a deadbeat father. My mother and I have a strained relationship, and always have.
I am planning a wedding, I am very new to all this and I would like to know your opinion: I am wondering how it will look if there aren't any family members of mine present? My fiance has a large and supportive family, and most, if not all, will definitely be there. The family photos will be just of his family, and I am sure they will notice. I am just asking because I am not sure if it is important or not.
Does his family not already know about your situation? I would assume they would already know about your background if you're getting married to their son.
Does his family not already know about your situation? I would assume they would already know about your background if you're getting married to their son.
His mother knows most of it, she and I talked all the time, but I haven't explained it to everyone else. I am not sure when is the best time to share that .
His mother knows most of it, she and I talked all the time, but I haven't explained it to everyone else. I am not sure when is the best time to share that .
I would say most people won't be that judgmental about it, particularly if his family likes you.
I was faced with the same situation when my daughter was married. I was afraid they would cause drama so I was selective in who I invited and it was those from my Father's side only, the ones who do not cause and live for the drama. My Father's side is small anyway but it was nice to have that small amount of family, than the larger side that lives for the drama and heartache they can cause. You do not have to explain anything to anyone, I was always and still am embarrassed of my family, just say you don't always see eye to eye or just say nothing, or say they couldn't come. The family members may get mad or hurt feelings but they really know why they were not invited. It is your day and not theirs and it is only a couple of hours so make it special and enjoyable for you, Congratulations and many happy years!
P.S. the family thing doesn't get any better I let them in and I cut them back out when it starts up again, but they are family and it is always hoping for the change for the best, I like the simple things and enjoy my own children and now grandchildren. I protect them from them(the other family members) and they are grown and still don't really get it, but I hope they never do. Stay Strong!
Your wedding. Do what you want. Invite anyone you want. The teacher who mentored you. Your best friend's grandma. If there are any other special people in your life, feel free to include them in the "family" pictures. They will be honored. There is no substitute for a good family, but there is nothing that can be done if we don't have that ideal.
Also think about inviting any relative that you happen to like even if it is not your immediate family. It is okay if you invite your normal uncle and not your Mom. It is your wedding!
We had only my family (7 people) at our wedding. We did not invite my husband's family. Our relationship with them is fine; however, we knew their presence would make the day stressful for various reasons, and we were trying to avoid that. We called them later that evening to tell them we had gotten married (we hadn't been "engaged," so no one was really expecting it). I don't know how they feel about it, but I ultimately asked him to make the call as to whether they were to be included, and that's what he chose.
It's your wedding; you and your future husband should decide together who you want to be part of your day.
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