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Old 07-31-2015, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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You know that if the woman has to say "obey" that the man does, too, right?

So you're promising to obey your non-over-the-top feminist woman just as much as she is promising that to you.
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Old 07-31-2015, 08:38 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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You know that if the woman has to say "obey" that the man does, too, right?

So you're promising to obey your non-over-the-top feminist woman just as much as she is promising that to you.
No, only the wife vows to obey. He leads, she submits. The husband does not vow to obey his wife.
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Old 08-03-2015, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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No, only the wife vows to obey. He leads, she submits. The husband does not vow to obey his wife.
Maybe he should vow to obey her wishes on things as much as she vows to obey his. I wouldn't make a promise to someone they won't make for me.
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Old 08-03-2015, 03:16 PM
 
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The man is the head of the wife according to the bible, so if your wedding is going to be in a church, your husband is perfectly entitled to insist on the traditional vow of obedience to him. Besides, male led marriages are far more successful than ones where there's equal power.

However with so many marriages ending in divorce due to certain people not keeping any of their vows, I guess it's a moot point.
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Old 08-03-2015, 09:53 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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No, only the wife vows to obey. He leads, she submits. The husband does not vow to obey his wife.
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Old 08-04-2015, 12:25 AM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I don't remember the specifics (though I have them in writing for reference ) but we each vowed the same to one another.

Isn't that the point?
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Old 08-04-2015, 06:31 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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I don't really remember the exact wording either; I do distinctly remember boiler plate vows, a bottle of wite-out, a joint editing process, and his barely keeping a straight face over "obeying".
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Old 08-04-2015, 07:54 AM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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The man is the head of the wife according to the bible, so if your wedding is going to be in a church, your husband is perfectly entitled to insist on the traditional vow of obedience to him. Besides, male led marriages are far more successful than ones where there's equal power.

However with so many marriages ending in divorce due to certain people not keeping any of their vows, I guess it's a moot point.
If male led marriages are more successful, shouldn't male led relationships be more successful? If so - how do you get rejected all of the time?
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