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That is my opinion!
You can judge if you like.
My family members tried to control wedding and Op need to her foot down.
You're BARELY dating, you're 19, are in nothing resembling a serious, long-term relationship, and you're complaining that family members are hypothetically trying to control your hypothetical wedding? Really?
On the topic of the OP, there isn't any reason for adult children to get their noses out of joint that a parent's low-key, later-in-life nuptials earlier in the year will in any way impact the attention they get lavished upon them for their wedding to take place later. Throwing some kind of fit over your dad and stepmom's earlier vow exchange overshadowing your wedding seems more than a little drama-seeking and over-the-top.
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You're BARELY dating, you're 19, are in nothing resembling a serious, long-term relationship, and you're complaining that family members are hypothetically trying to control your hypothetical wedding? Really?
[quote=TabulaRasa;41030257]You're BARELY dating, you're 19, are in nothing resembling a serious, long-term relationship, and you're complaining that family members are hypothetically trying to control your hypothetical wedding? Really?
On the topic of the OP, there isn't any reason for adult children to get their noses out of joint that a parent's low-key, later-in-life nuptials earlier in the year will in any way impact the attention they get lavished upon them for their wedding to take place later. Throwing some kind of fit over your dad and stepmom's earlier vow exchange overshadowing your wedding seems more than a little drama-seeking and over-the-top.[/quote
I probably should my word better .
It seems like there more people were involved with this story.
I turned 20 a few weeks ago.
I am capable of having long term relationships but not now.
the stepson didn't know, the OP said, they didn't share their plans with anyone, so I'm assuming he didn't know, or maybe I'm wrong?
I think that was the deal. This thread is quite confusing.
I do believe I would have, upon hearing my son was planning a summer wedding, simply state "congratulations, son! We had not shared the date just yet but we're planning a very small wedding in April, ourselves!"
End of story. End of problem.
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I think that was the deal. This thread is quite confusing.
I do believe I would have, upon hearing my son was planning a summer wedding, simply state "congratulations, son! We had not shared the date just yet but we're planning a very small wedding in April, ourselves!"
End of story. End of problem.
Yeah, to be upset over something that was completely avoidable had the OP shared their happy news with the soon-to-be stepson in the first place.
I think that was the deal. This thread is quite confusing.
I do believe I would have, upon hearing my son was planning a summer wedding, simply state "congratulations, son! We had not shared the date just yet but we're planning a very small wedding in April, ourselves!"
End of story. End of problem.
yes, me to, however, the OP sounds very young...and like they are afraid to hurt feelings...
I wouldn't change my plans either....
I believe people get lost in reading all the posts...and forget what the OP wrote...I know I do...lol
yes, me to, however, the OP sounds very young...and like they are afraid to hurt feelings...
I wouldn't change my plans either....
I believe people get lost in reading all the posts...and forget what the OP wrote...I know I do...lol
I think it was more the OP's future husband's feelings of not wanting to feel like he has one-upped his son. I think that if the son and futher D-I-L would find out, they'd just say "congratulations!"
I think it was the OP's future husband thinking too heavily into something that wasn't there.
I think it was more the OP's future husband's feelings of not wanting to feel like he has one-upped his son. I think that if the son and futher D-I-L would find out, they'd just say "congratulations!"
I think it was the OP's future husband thinking too heavily into something that wasn't there.
Which instantly made me think this was going to devolve into "the OP's fiance is looking for a way to bail on this wedding."
Thankfully, that was not the case.
He just got blindsided by his son planning a wedding so close to his, sounds like.
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I think it was more the OP's future husband's feelings of not wanting to feel like he has one-upped his son. I think that if the son and futher D-I-L would find out, they'd just say "congratulations!"
I think it was the OP's future husband thinking too heavily into something that wasn't there.
yes, it was, but the op could also insert her feelings openly and honestly to her future husband, this is a couple's deal....yanno? they need to sit down and discuss this, just b/c he says so, doesn't make it right, there are two people in on this deal...right?
I agree with you...though....absolutely!
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