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I don't know where you are, but I could drive just over an hour to a ski resort that also has facilities for events like weddings. Doesn't seem odd to me. If it is far away from you, and no RSVP card, maybe you aren't expected to go. If it is an announcement, it should have been sent after the wedding.
Got a card in the mail today that I thought was for Christmas. No, it's a wedding invitation. For January 9, at a ski resort.
I don't get it. AFAIK, the bride and groom aren't avid skiers. What's the bride going to walk down the aisle in, apres-ski booties? Both the MOB and the GMOB have mobility issues, so yeah, let's drag them to a high altitude location with lots of ice and snow.
We won't be going. I realize weddings are all about the bride but this isn't her first. The family pulled out all the stops on that one (10 years ago) and we took a week off from work to attend...and ended up being treated like redheaded stepchildren, so no. Especially since we'll see them all at Christmas, a mere 15 days earlier!
I realize that no one makes plans while considering what the guests might have to go through to get there and we won't be missed. But this seems exceptionally tone-deaf when they could have gotten married at Christmas.
I wish them all the happiness in the world, naturally, while simultaneously wondering what the heck they're thinking.
Why do womem think because they were invited to a wedding they have to go or send a gift? You are not entitled to do either! F em I say!
If this is the first marriage for one of them then give a gift at Christmas get together as that's all the invite was for anyway. People have become very tasteless over the decades.My brother in law was married three times to same woman and they had a gift registry each time!!! Embarrassing. Usually don't pay attention to people's screen names but did see yours and love it.
Got a card in the mail today that I thought was for Christmas. No, it's a wedding invitation. For January 9, at a ski resort.
I don't get it. AFAIK, the bride and groom aren't avid skiers. What's the bride going to walk down the aisle in, apres-ski booties? Both the MOB and the GMOB have mobility issues, so yeah, let's drag them to a high altitude location with lots of ice and snow.
We won't be going. I realize weddings are all about the bride but this isn't her first. The family pulled out all the stops on that one (10 years ago) and we took a week off from work to attend...and ended up being treated like redheaded stepchildren, so no. Especially since we'll see them all at Christmas, a mere 15 days earlier!
I realize that no one makes plans while considering what the guests might have to go through to get there and we won't be missed. But this seems exceptionally tone-deaf when they could have gotten married at Christmas.
I wish them all the happiness in the world, naturally, while simultaneously wondering what the heck they're thinking.
They don't want you there anyway.
Nobody sends out wedding invites a month before a wedding, and that's just when the wedding is local, the norm is 3 to 4 months advance notice, never mind at an out of town location.
If they really wanted you there you would have received this invite at the latest in October.
Wow. That's a new one on me but I don't keep up on trends.
It's been a few years since I delved into wedding etiquette but aren't announcements (as opposed to invitations) the thing if you don't expect people to come?
There's no RSVP. The plan apparently is for everyone to have dinner afterwards in the hotel dining room. They might not need an exact headcount for that, so the lack of an RSVP could make sense. I'm trying not to read too much into this whole thing.
Wrong, the hotel kitchen staff would need a headcount. Your comment makes no sense. How do you plan for dinner when you have no idea how many are coming? Even buffet style requires a headcount.
The invites must have gone out much sooner to those who are actually invited and who did RSVP.
Your not invited. They're announcing they're getting married and sent you an announcement not an invite, hoping for a gift.
Wow. That's a new one on me but I don't keep up on trends.
It's been a few years since I delved into wedding etiquette but aren't announcements (as opposed to invitations) the thing if you don't expect people to come?
There's no RSVP. The plan apparently is for everyone to have dinner afterwards in the hotel dining room. They might not need an exact headcount for that, so the lack of an RSVP could make sense. I'm trying not to read too much into this whole thing.
I prefer to think it dated back to a time when there was less tackiness.
This particular situation screams gift grab.
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