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I don't know where you are, but I could drive just over an hour to a ski resort that also has facilities for events like weddings. Doesn't seem odd to me. If it is far away from you, and no RSVP card, maybe you aren't expected to go. If it is an announcement, it should have been sent after the wedding.
I was going to say--I've been to several weddings at resort areas that do offer skiing among other things, but the ceremonies were in a beautiful lodge setting with views of the mountains. Nobody got married in an inaccessible location or expected guests to perform athletic feats.
Wow. That's a new one on me but I don't keep up on trends.
It's been a few years since I delved into wedding etiquette but aren't announcements (as opposed to invitations) the thing if you don't expect people to come?
Maybe an invitation is used to make the guests feel more pressured to send a gift?
She's on the "you're not invited because we're telling you a month before and the invited guests were told three months ago so they could actually come, no RSVP because this is just an announcement so you can send a gift" LIST.
Wow. That's a new one on me but I don't keep up on trends.
It's been a few years since I delved into wedding etiquette but aren't announcements (as opposed to invitations) the thing if you don't expect people to come?
There's no RSVP. The plan apparently is for everyone to have dinner afterwards in the hotel dining room. They might not need an exact headcount for that, so the lack of an RSVP could make sense. I'm trying not to read too much into this whole thing.
Announcements are also sent after the wedding occurs.
The announcement should really be sent out after the wedding.
I think a second wedding it needs to state (Please no gifts) so tacky to think people should be sending gifts.
I can't believe one post saying they know someone that married the same person three times and they registered for gifts each time ?! They should be embarrassed. Really lacking fundamental manners.
I'd just send a congratulations card and try not to read too much into it.
Perhaps the lodge was only non rec-hall type of venue available at a reasonable price on short notice. Like another poster said, they may really want a small intimate gathering but feel obligated to invite extended family to avoid hurting feelings and by making it a destination wedding, they could invite all of the family but pretty much ensure that most don't attend.
Either way it's their rodeo. Go or not go, it's up to you.
Maybe she is pregnant and trying to beat the clock ;-). I wouldn't think it was too weird, I just wouldn't go. I knew a couple who got married in secret from the brides family, got gifts from the grooms side. Had a big elaborate wedding a year later (the brides family paid for it still not knowing they were already married) and reasked the grooms family for gifts, and expected them so they could help keep the secret. I was on the grooms side. I didn't go. I wasn't interested in going to an event where I had to lie to a bunch of people. So that to me was super tacky, this...meh. I wouldn't worry about it. They likely don't expect a big turn out. And it's true, you might be on the b list of lots of people RSVPed no. Or they felt obligated to invite you but didn't expect you to come.
I don't get it. AFAIK, the bride and groom aren't avid skiers. What's the bride going to walk down the aisle in, apres-ski booties?..........
I am going to guess that they chose the ski resort so that they would have beautiful background in their wedding photos. Wedding ceremony is most likely going to be in the lodge, not out in the howling wind and snow.
Where I live, ski resort isn't even a destination wedding. Ski resort is right up the road. So, how far away is this ski resort?
Send a card that says congratulations. You don't have to go if you don't want to.
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