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PS - I'm not opposed to dreaming. I think it's harmless.
Ita....dreaming is harmless. I just worry about people's mental state when they take it too far IMO......like planning a total wedding without even having a groom.....or pretending to be different people on a public forum to harass others that are planning real weddings.
Me and my GF want to put off any big expenditures until travel restrictions ease and family is able to come to our marriage. We were planning to get married this year, but because of COVID things may be postponed.
We live thousands of miles apart, and what used to be a 2 hour plane ride per month in pre COVID times has now turned into a multi day journey or a high risk activity.
We do still talk over video every few days, but it’s not the same as being there in person because I can’t hug .
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Me and my GF want to put off any big expenditures until travel restrictions ease and family is able to come to our marriage. We were planning to get married this year, but because of COVID things may be postponed.
We live thousands of miles apart, and what used to be a 2 hour plane ride per month in pre COVID times has now turned into a multi day journey or a high risk activity.
We do still talk over video every few days, but it’s not the same as being there in person because I can’t hug .
I feel bad for you....that must be hard.....tho I hope that you lived together or have spent lots of time together before planning a wedding.
Ita on the covid situation tho....it makes it very hard to plan a wedding. We have thought super seriously about a plan B.
I feel bad for you....that must be hard.....tho I hope that you lived together or have spent lots of time together before planning a wedding.
Ita on the covid situation tho....it makes it very hard to plan a wedding. We have thought super seriously about a plan B.
The other problem for me is that not only are we far apart by distance, but both of our families are dispersed worldwide, even close family members are not nearby.
I want to catch a flight next month and go visit in person, but it’s still very risky.
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The other problem for me is that not only are we far apart by distance, but both of our families are dispersed worldwide, even close family members are not nearby.
I want to catch a flight next month and go visit in person, but it’s still very risky.
Covid 19 may make it hard to plan a wedding IMO & we can't predict what things will be like in 6 months for travel & large groups.......BUT it wouldn't keep me from moving in with my fiance if I wasn't already.
Covid 19 may make it hard to plan a wedding IMO & we can't predict what things will be like in 6 months for travel & large groups.......BUT it wouldn't keep me from moving in with my fiance if I wasn't already.
Not saying I don’t want to move in, but my job requires me to be present in the local area if things go south with vehicle security software at the plant. She still has to complete grad school. Eventually we will live together.
I will be looking for new jobs in her region too once travel restrictions are relaxed and job market improves.
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Not saying I don’t want to move in, but my job requires me to be present in the local area if things go south with vehicle security software at the plant. She still has to complete grad school. Eventually we will live together.
I will be looking for new jobs in her area too once travel restrictions are relaxed and job market improves.
Oh....just make sure you spend lots of time together to date or live together before you plan a wedding IMO..........congratulations tho!
I look at houses for sale in New Orleans all the time, and day dream about what it would be like to live there, in a particular neighborhood, and google the neighborhood street view, and meander my way around.
Who HASN'T daydreamed about their wedding and had it all planned out in their head? With everything being online, it's pretty easy to daydream and plan out the perfect dress, cake, wine, venues, etc.
Pretty sure OP knows once there IS a groom, there will be compromises, etc. Ain't no harm in what she's doing.
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Pretty sure OP knows once there IS a groom, there will be compromises, etc. Ain't no harm in what she's doing.
I was only going by what the post said & JMO.....planning your wedding from start to finish without a groom just didn't sound like a healthy mental exercise. If you know the O.P. or how she feels....then maybe you're right about it being harmless for her...BUT IMO it can be unhealthy.
The OP posted this 3 years ago and most recently had indicated her wedding got cancelled because of COVID.
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I just worry about people's mental state when they take it too far IMO......like planning a total wedding without even having a groom.....or pretending to be different people on a public forum to harass others that are planning real weddings.
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