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Originally Posted by sailormoon850
Her mom actually ended up messaging me saying they will have masks as “party favors”. So it’s not mandatory which still doesn’t seem safe. I know she invited around 40 people to the bridal shower alone. Also my friend never responded so I’m not sure what to tell her mom now  |
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Originally Posted by sailormoon850
i did but ive never had anyone be this upset about it i did message her mom and told her that i still dont feel comfortable going and that i hope they understand but i need to focus on my recovery. I was just telling my mom that i hate how scared i am about everything/everyone. Ive always been a people pleaser and i hate upsetting people but i need to start looking out for myself. |
The very minimal you say to the mother is, "Thanks". She wasn't asking you anything, just telling you. And "Party favors" doesn't mean squat. I'm sure less than 10% of the guests, IF that, will actually wear them then & there at the event.
I don't know how they (the authorities on giving state & county rules) can say, "limit get-togethers to 10 people" because even 2 people isn't good if they don't live in the SAME household, so no one else knows how laxed or stringent each person is with who they come into contact with.
Can't people (not talking about you, OP) get it through their thick heads?! EACH person someone invited to ANY get-together each comes into contact w/ God knows who:
EACH Guest 1, 2, 3, etc. - May still have a job they commute to so they come into contact w/ whoever all those people are. Then, God knows how lax or careful each guest is on their free time (w/ their own friends & fam they come into contact w/).
That's a lot of different germs coming from EACH person, so when 50-100+ are invited, it's a recipe for disaster.
Have you heard of Jillian Michaels? She's this celebrity personal trainer. She got COVID & said how she slipped up & had her hairstylist &/or makeup artist come to her house for ONE HOUR & that's how she caught it. Having a hairstylist, etc. coming to the house doesn't mean squat. Yeah, after they worked w/ their 20+ other clients on their hair too.
Then have you heard of the
ASYMPTOMATIC people in which they show zero symptoms, but they're really ill & will transmit COVID to GOd knows who because they "think" they're fine so they're out & about at stores, people's homes, etc.
sailormoon850, you've really got to grow a backbone & get firm. Everyone else are just people too. Have you ever heard the expression, "They put their pants on 1 leg at a time like the rest of us"? That means they're just regular people too, nothing special. Your b friend, her mother & everyone else out there on this earth are no more valuable or powerful than you. They're not the great, big Gods or something. Saying NO shouldn't meant a thing. You have your own mind & opinions, so you stand up for yourself. What are they going to do...slap you, hit you, kick you if you say NO?! Of course not.
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Ita! A wedding celebration should be fun & happy.....not overshadowed by covid & worrying about friends or older family members getting sick. I would feel horrible.
Tell her mom that you are sry but that you're not going to be able to attend because of covid & your surgery. It's not that hard. Have you never had to tell somebody you weren't going to a party or wedding or event before?
.....to Mayo Clinic...forums & articles. IMO take steps to do the work or feel better about yourself....so it's not a problem in the future. Ppl don't respect doormats or follow the crowd types....you have a mind of your own & be proud to show it off! Ofc that's super different from being mean or nasty to ppl.
BUT..you are only doing the right thing for yourself & your recovery by not going to that wedding.