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Old 12-11-2011, 12:22 AM
 
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I am not in a position to quit.

So I need to survive working for a micromanager.

I've done the same position for a number of years, getting great reviews from every boss I've worked for, and now, due to a company merger, am reporting to a new boss whose style is very different than those of the prior company.

I know the best solution is to leave, but since I can't do that, I'd like to hear what others have done in this type of situation.

The rest of this company is great, my co-workers are great, and I really enjoy what I do. This guy is a turd in my punchbowl.

any suggestions (other than quitting) appreciated!
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Old 12-11-2011, 12:30 AM
 
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Get meds, you might need them. Anti anxiety, or anti depressants.
Suck up, and brown nose.
Only do what you are told, then wait for additional commands.
Find something outside of work to focus on.
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Old 12-11-2011, 12:34 AM
 
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I am not in a position to quit.
Line up a new job and then you will be in a position to quit. Why not?

It may take a while, but dealing with your a-hole boss will motivate you to look harder for a way out.
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Old 12-11-2011, 01:13 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Have you tried to discuss this with your new boss?
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Old 12-11-2011, 11:53 AM
 
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I knew when I posted this thread there wouldn't be many replies- and that is because basically it just sucks working for a micromanager.

There are a lot of reasons I can't quit, none of which I want to go into here.

I'll just deal with it, no other options at this point.
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:35 PM
 
Location: Golden, CO
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Best thing to do is be honest and upfront about it in a "tactful" manner. I'm not sure what exactly is going on, but try throwing subtle hints that you know what you are doing and say something in a joking manner like "I've done this for certain number of years" or " I know you are my new manager, but I'm not a new employee. Sometimes striking a deal works like, What results are you looking for? If I ever go below that, then we can try your way etc. If that doesn't go through their thick head, then just say " Hey can I talk to you about something?" If all else fails, just be the robot they want you to be and just do ONLY what they say WHEN they say. One thing about micromanagers is that they for some reason or another feel like they don't trust anyone to do their job or do it correctly, so they are always checking. Sometimes they have no say so at home and feel this power can be used at work. I knew someone who's wife always bossed him around and you can tell, but at work he tried being I'm in charge blah blah blah.
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Old 12-11-2011, 03:43 PM
 
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Best thing to do is be honest and upfront about it in a "tactful" manner. I'm not sure what exactly is going on, but try throwing subtle hints that you know what you are doing and say something in a joking manner like "I've done this for certain number of years" or " I know you are my new manager, but I'm not a new employee. Sometimes striking a deal works like, What results are you looking for? If I ever go below that, then we can try your way etc. If that doesn't go through their thick head, then just say " Hey can I talk to you about something?" If all else fails, just be the robot they want you to be and just do ONLY what they say WHEN they say. One thing about micromanagers is that they for some reason or another feel like they don't trust anyone to do their job or do it correctly, so they are always checking. Sometimes they have no say so at home and feel this power can be used at work. I knew someone who's wife always bossed him around and you can tell, but at work he tried being I'm in charge blah blah blah.
Good points, thanks.

I already had the conversation that I've been doing this for many years now (and other managers vouched for me as well). He doesn't care.

He is really just a miserable person and the day I no longer have to have anything to do with him will be a wonderful one.

Its sad because everyone else in this place is really great to work with for the most part.

Other people have quit because of him.

But the people above him don't care....he'll be there until he retires.
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Old 12-11-2011, 04:23 PM
 
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I worked with one like that. It is demeaning. Because you do the job, but not the "way" they wanted you to do it. So, therefore, you are an idiot, all the time. Rational discussions are meaningless to control freaks. They pick apart everything you do, all the time. I have been there, done that. Feel for ya'.

Just blow it off. They try to threaten you with termination, but it is hot air.

I could only take it for two years. And I needed meds to manage. I hated going to work.
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Old 12-11-2011, 09:27 PM
 
Location: The High Seas
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I worked for the worst a-holes I've ever had the displeasure of working with and this is my last week, so I'm pretty well versed in reading about how to deal with all sorts.
From what I recall from my reading regarding micromanagers, they're insecure and the advice is to email and call them to death, letting them in on every minute detail. In the long run though, get out.
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Old 12-11-2011, 10:42 PM
 
Location: California
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The new boss in my office is a micromanager. She has been there for almost two years now. Her managing style is her worst nightmare. No one will back her up and her reports reflect that. I would do only what he asks. Don't think for yourself. He doesn't want it. If something goes wrong he will be holding the ball because you were following his orders. Good luck! Focus on family and friends, they are what count not a job with a bad boss.
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