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Old 12-19-2012, 05:07 PM
 
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Is it like this at your work place?

Today I encountered a full time co worker who begged me to come in early as our work was backed up from the previous day. She was angry at me today because I "only came in 2 hours and 15 minutes before my original scheduled start time for today at 745.I am sceehduled to come in at 10am today.. And she did not come in today til 810 or so.. Keep in mind, I am "part time" at my job (though this is changing soon) and she is full time.. Her excuse to the boss about coming in later and many times leaving early is "her children"

I am single and 30 and I'm just fine with that..She is in her upper 30s.. If I left early this often or came in this late, I do not picture it being acceptable and being given a hard time. How come its okay for many working parents to do this, but not the single people?

FYI if I ever do want to leave early, its likely going to be me working on my own business I co own with a few others.. Its not me partying around like many people who are married seem to think thats ALL I do.. Eventually I hope my side business and interests are enough to do to support me completely financially. But that just is not the case now..

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Old 12-19-2012, 07:55 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Your coworker had no right to be angry at you, especially since you were doing her a favor. However, until you have kids don't judge. I used to despise coworkers with kids that pulled the same stuff. Then I had children, and now I get it. There are times you need to leave for your kids. They come first, no matter what. I manage my time differently. Taking some work home, coming in early etc. Things some wouldn't notice.

Last week in the wake of Newtown's shooting I asked my boss to leave early to meet my kids off the bus and just hug them. She was very understanding (no kids of her own). Until you have kids, it is truly hard to judge.
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Old 12-19-2012, 08:06 PM
 
Location: here
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Your coworker had no right to be angry at you, especially since you were doing her a favor. However, until you have kids don't judge. I used to despise coworkers with kids that pulled the same stuff. Then I had children, and now I get it. There are times you need to leave for your kids. They come first, no matter what. I manage my time differently. Taking some work home, coming in early etc. Things some wouldn't notice.

Last week in the wake of Newtown's shooting I asked my boss to leave early to meet my kids off the bus and just hug them. She was very understanding (no kids of her own). Until you have kids, it is truly hard to judge.
Yes, well said.

My jobs have all been very fair. Everyone earns a certain amount of PTO. I may have to take more sudden sick days because my kids are sick, or have a snow day, or whatever, but that's PTO I can't take for fun later. Even if someone had to cover for me, I'd have to do the same for them later when they go on vacation.
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Old 12-19-2012, 08:22 PM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, 615' Elevation, Zone 8b - originally from SF Bay Area
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Whether it's an issue with kids, a spouse, or an elderly parent, I like to be flexible with my people and allow them to come in late and stay late or come in early and leave early as long as it's not too often, or use PTO when they need to. Some employers do value family, but the work still has to get done.
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Old 12-19-2012, 09:21 PM
 
Location: NJ
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I would not have been so nice.
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Old 12-19-2012, 11:00 PM
 
Location: California
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Whether it's an issue with kids, a spouse, or an elderly parent, I like to be flexible with my people and allow them to come in late and stay late or come in early and leave early as long as it's not too often, or use PTO when they need to. Some employers do value family, but the work still has to get done.
I agree with this. My employer is pretty flexible and allows us to take our PTO without a lot of notice...so when things come up, we are all able to get the time we need. I do not have kids but I recently had a medical issue that was a surprise and needed to have it handled asap...my work was cool with it. Now, do they also give people a lot fo slack when kids are involved? Yes. But they also give those of us without kids slack when random things happen to us.
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Old 12-20-2012, 06:54 AM
 
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Your coworker had no right to be angry at you, especially since you were doing her a favor. However, until you have kids don't judge. I used to despise coworkers with kids that pulled the same stuff. Then I had children, and now I get it. There are times you need to leave for your kids. They come first, no matter what. I manage my time differently. Taking some work home, coming in early etc. Things some wouldn't notice.

Last week in the wake of Newtown's shooting I asked my boss to leave early to meet my kids off the bus and just hug them. She was very understanding (no kids of her own). Until you have kids, it is truly hard to judge.

You can't force the business or your co-workers to assume that same responsibility for YOUR kids. Once you make your personal problems their problem you will soon to be replaced or passed over for promotion due to your unreliability.
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Old 12-20-2012, 07:40 AM
 
Location: North Texas
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Where I currently work, a lot of the parents bail early or in the middle of the day to deal with kid emergencies or other miscellaneous kid-related things. However, their work still gets done...so I don't really care.
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Old 12-20-2012, 07:41 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Yeah.
People bail earlier, show up later, etc...all citing the kid.
I would love to cite my dog's doctor's appointment for the reason I did the same, but that's somehow 'different.'

Btw, I have a kid now and I still don't bail.
My choice to have a child is not someone else's problem.
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Old 12-20-2012, 08:03 AM
 
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My choice to have a child is not someone else's problem.
They should hand out a certificate at the hosipital that says that whenever a couple has a kid...
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