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How do I deal with bullies at work that seem to hate you for no reason from day one? Worst is I have two of them and there's only 5 of us in the firm, so I have to stand ground alone. I thought I was overacting at first, but I have found written proof of their behavior towards me. One of that is an email sent to her friends from work about me and her friend and her were making fun of my "depression" after I lost my baby last year. Can't bring it to the bosses either because that's their favorite employee. I wish I could quit, but it's easier said than done.
I have found written proof of their behavior towards me. One of that is an email sent to her friends from work about me and her friend and her were making fun of my "depression" after I lost my baby last year.
That is pathetic and so immature! If I were you, I would confront them in front of the boss and the whole staff and ask them to give an explanation of their poor sense of humor.
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That has got to be the lowest of the low. I'd confront them (individually) and call them on their behavior. Bullies like them tend to prey on the weakest or most vulnerable. They also tend to get away with their behavior because they rely on everybody else following the rules of the workplace (ignore them, treat them well, etc). But making fun of someone's loss? That is deplorable. I'd tell them that even though they've been getting away with this crap, I know exactly who and what they are: bullies. I'd continue to do my work and deal with them in as professional a manner as possible, but I would call them out when they treated me poorly.
As an aside, the issue is ultimately much bigger than them. Assuming the manager is aware of the situation--and not doing anything about it, does not bode well for improving the environment.
I was expecting the workers to beat you up in hallways. It's an email. It does not affect your work. Everybody has somebody at work that does not like them. Everybody has an opinion and it's not always great.
I am sure an email has been sent about me in the past, but I do not care.
You should get some counseling for that depression.
Try to ignore such crap as much as possible. Focus on your job and keep your personal life out of work as much as you reasonably can. I wouldn't make an issue out of it, especially since you know this coworker is a pet favorite.
I realize it sucks; I can relate, but such awful people are at all work environments. Just try to keep private issues out of work as much as possible, so that you don't have such people use information against you in the future.
Try to ignore such crap as much as possible. Focus on your job and keep your personal life out of work as much as you reasonably can. I wouldn't make an issue out of it, especially since you know this coworker is a pet favorite.
I realize it sucks; I can relate, but such awful people are at all work environments. Just try to keep private issues out of work as much as possible, so that you don't have such people use information against you in the future.
That is true and I do try to keep personal stuff from work. It was kind of hard in this situation where I was gone from work for two weeks since I had to tell my boss what happened to me. Worst part was she was pretending to be my friend all the time, but using it against me. Now I know. It's just difficult to be here. In a bigger office environment, I can ignore her more since there's more people and space.
That is true and I do try to keep personal stuff from work. It was kind of hard in this situation where I was gone from work for two weeks since I had to tell my boss what happened to me. Worst part was she was pretending to be my friend all the time, but using it against me. Now I know. It's just difficult to be here. In a bigger office environment, I can ignore her more since there's more people and space.
Understand, you had to explain an extended absence. I would try to apply for other jobs since your boss is "not on your side." Easier to get another job while you have one, than when you don't. Also, best of luck to what you decide in the near future.
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