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Old 11-18-2014, 12:18 PM
 
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Hi

I'm looking for different opinion on this because I'm not sure what to think. I have a coworker whom I thought I had a pretty good bond with. I have worked with her for about 1 year and we did have a small disagreement about a month ago but I thought she got over it and we moved on. We don't really hang out, outside of work but we do follow each other on facebook (not that it means anything)

Anyway, today I got an email from my husband that I needed to call him right away as it was urgent and my cell phone wouldn't catch a signal. So I went to this coworker and asked her if I could use her phone. And to my surprise she looked freaked out and said "um, eh, I feel kind of weird about that, I don't have privacy" or something to that effect I was stunned and said "ok don't worry about it". She said "why you use your phone" and I told her my phone signal wasn't working and I needed to call my husband. I told her never mind and walked away. Now I know people have things on their phone that they may not want others to see but it really hurt me that she thought I would look through her phone. Especially since I have let her use my phone a few times with no questions asked.

I'm also wondering if she may have said negative things about me to other coworkers via text and she doesn't want me to see that. Either way it really hurt my feelings. I decided I will be taking a huge step back from this "work friendship" as I feel that she doesn't view me as I viewed her.. I unfriended her on facebook as well. I figure if she doesn't trust me why be connected at all.

Am I being ridiculous?
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:21 PM
 
Location: North Texas
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Am I being ridiculous?
Both of you are, IMHO.

Hey...you asked.
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:24 PM
 
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Is there no landline in your office you could use?
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:24 PM
 
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Both of you are, IMHO.

Hey...you asked.
I hate that it bothers me but it does..
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:26 PM
 
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Is there no landline in your office you could use?
I have a phone at my desk but no privacy.
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Montréal & New York area
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Your co-worker had something hidden most likely that she did not want you to see. Otherwise she is weird and unethical. Sure, she is not obligated to give out her phone but common.

I'm happy I speak multiple languages, that way nobody understand me
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:28 PM
 
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Your co-worker had something hidden most likely that she did not want you to see. Otherwise she is weird and unethical. Sure, she is not obligated to give out her phone but common.

I'm happy I speak multiple languages, that way nobody understand me
Oh I know she isn't obligated. I just thought since I have let her use mine, she would do the same. I now know she doesn't trust me or she is two faced. Either way, not good.
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:39 PM
 
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That would make me very uncomfortable also. With cell phones doing so much these days, I don't know that I'd let someone borrow mine unless they were a VERY close friend.

Want to take my phone and walk away - nope!
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:41 PM
 
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That would make me very uncomfortable also. With cell phones doing so much these days, I don't know that I'd let someone borrow mine unless they were a VERY close friend.

Want to take my phone and walk away - nope!
Well I let her use mine. I trusted her. I'm not paranoid. Now I know how it is.
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Old 11-18-2014, 12:45 PM
 
Location: Seattle, Washington
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I've got nude photos of current and ex girlfriends on my phone.

Doesn't matter who asks to use my phone... if it's a guy they don't leave my sight with my phone and I don't care how long we've been friends.
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