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If you had a supervisor make a snide comment to you and someone told you about another possible snide remark they said about you, would you somehow bring it up to them? The person is generally nice and friendly, but because of the comments, it now seems fake. Would you say something? How would you even do so?
(For the record, I am very nice and friendly to all there too. And if it makes any difference, we are opposite genders.)
If someone made a snide comment to me, I would call them on it right then and there. You don't have to be snide back to them, but you certainly can say, "What do you mean by that?" and just wait for their reply.
If someone made a snide comment to me, I would call them on it right then and there. You don't have to be snide back to them, but you certainly can say, "What do you mean by that?" and just wait for their reply.
One of the comments could, I guess, be considered hearsay but because it was with a directive of what I was supposed to do, it seemed legit. The other was directly to me. Then they had to immediately talk to a client/customer and I was getting off work.
Should you really say that to a supervisor? A co-worker I could see, but a supervisor? I know it's unprofessional of them, but I don't feel comfortable being unprofessional back. Especially because I've only been with the company for about 6 months so far
If you had a supervisor make a snide comment to you and someone told you about another possible snide remark they said about you, would you somehow bring it up to them? The person is generally nice and friendly, but because of the comments, it now seems fake. Would you say something? How would you even do so?
(For the record, I am very nice and friendly to all there too. And if it makes any difference, we are opposite genders.)
What was the comment and under what circumstances? Context and content are important. With that said, if it affects your job performance or is harrassment or similar in magnitude, then I'd say something.
Otherwise, I'd blow it off.
[don't duck for just anything thrown at you - especially if it is a pebble]
What I've done in the past is to say something to the effect of, "Have I done something to offend (or upset) you?" immediately after their comment is said. The person always say, "No, why?" Then I will discuss the observable behavior. Like, "I interpreted the tone cadence in your previous comment as anger. Was I wrong?" They always say "no". And I respond with, "Oh, my mistake. Sorry." And they never do it again.
Should you really say that to a supervisor? A co-worker I could see, but a supervisor? I know it's unprofessional of them, but I don't feel comfortable being unprofessional back. Especially because I've only been with the company for about 6 months so far
You're all still human.
I need to know what was said in order to give you helpful advice, but there is nothing wrong with asking a supervisor what they meant.
You could just say, 'Hey, if I'm not doing something right, just lemme know, I like this place.'
It's really simple dealing with passive aggressive people...be nice, simple and like a sibling/friend.
You could just say, 'Hey, if I'm not doing something right, just lemme know, I like this place.'
It's really simple dealing with passive aggressive people...be nice, simple and like a sibling/friend.
OP, do not try to be like a sibling or friend with your supervisor, but I agree that the question as posed by Miss Hepburn is okay.
Wmsn4Life has also given you great advice. Ask, "What do you mean?" if you're getting a snide comment.
But, I also agree that it would be helpful to know for ourselves whether or not the comment falls under the snide category. Are you able to share what was said?
Thanks for the advice so far. I would share what was said but I'm the type who is paranoid that the person would see it if they happened to be on here as well. I know the chances are slim but there is still a chance.
OP, do not try to be like a sibling or friend with your supervisor, but I agree that the question as posed by Miss Hepburn is okay.
Wmsn4Life has also given you great advice. Ask, "What do you mean?" if you're getting a snide comment.
But, I also agree that it would be helpful to know for ourselves whether or not the comment falls under the snide category. Are you able to share what was said?
I think part of the problem may be that this particular supervisor does act like a sibling or friend to many of the employees, which I think is unprofessional. Many of them act like that there. I don't act like that. I am nice and friendly and talk with them about relatable things but I don't talk in a teasing manner or sarcastic manner or that I've known them my whole life, because I haven't and I'm professional. I know some snide comments are done in joking ways, I do that myself with people I know well, but when it comes from a supervisor who doesn't do that with you and it is obviously not done in a joking way, it is worse. And like I said, this person has always presented themselves in a nice, friendly way, but not like a friend/sibling thing like with many of the others. So I'm not sure why they had to add the snide remark. And it wasn't like they were trying to be joking snide. I definitely know the difference. We don't have that kind of relationship.
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