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I had been feeling like my boss doesnt like me. He doesnt seem to care about anything i say, never asks my opinion. I had a meeting with him yesterday and we ended up talking about other things id like to do. Ive been in my position 4 years. He is fairly new, joined almost a year ago and ive been on maternity leave during that time. I asked him what other opportunities he saw for me and my position and, he named a few but really seemed to imply that it's up to me to decide where id like to go. He also said there's nothing wrong with staying where i am but that he likes to help people get to where they want to go. I askes about one position and he said I'd need to work on tech skills then he brought up another position that isnt even open.
Is this a bad conversation? He didnt really tell me that im awesome...if anything i felt like he was telling me not to get stagnant. I am 38 years old and lately i have felt like i nees a change. I work in tech support and i dont feel like im great at it. I have a masters degree also but i like my company and dont want to leave
Hes all about goals and working on goals and i have a hard time coming up with goals which is what he wants. I work with super overachiever people and i feel like no matter what i do it will never be enough. I often feel old. 2 people are about 15 yrs younger than me and they seem to do a better job
I have leverage in that ive been there 4 years...but i dont know how much. Can someone give me career advice?
I had been feeling like my boss doesnt like me. He doesnt seem to care about anything i say, never asks my opinion. I had a meeting with him yesterday and we ended up talking about other things id like to do. Ive been in my position 4 years. He is fairly new, joined almost a year ago and ive been on maternity leave during that time. I asked him what other opportunities he saw for me and my position and, he named a few but really seemed to imply that it's up to me to decide where id like to go. He also said there's nothing wrong with staying where i am but that he likes to help people get to where they want to go. I askes about one position and he said I'd need to work on tech skills then he brought up another position that isnt even open.
Is this a bad conversation? He didnt really tell me that im awesome...if anything i felt like he was telling me not to get stagnant. I am 38 years old and lately i have felt like i nees a change. I work in tech support and i dont feel like im great at it. I have a masters degree also but i like my company and dont want to leave
Hes all about goals and working on goals and i have a hard time coming up with goals which is what he wants. I work with super overachiever people and i feel like no matter what i do it will never be enough. I often feel old. 2 people are about 15 yrs younger than me and they seem to do a better job
I have leverage in that ive been there 4 years...but i dont know how much. Can someone give me career advice?
You said he doesn't ask your opinion, then immediately said he asked for your opinion.
I really can't give you any advice w/o knowing what kind of positions these are, or if movement is normal or expected.
I am a little older than you and a mom, and I feel constant pressure to go bigger, get better. Sometimes I really just want to do the job that I'm in at least until the kids are grown. It's low pressure and it suits my needs. I don't care if I'm stagnant, but I don't want to show poorly at work, either. I do understand that, but I have no advice.
He has been in his position for a year, and you have been on maternity leave during that time? Plus the others in your department, by your own admission, are better than you?
What were you looking for? Your boss barely knows you, your track record isn't great, and s/he is willing to support you in your goals, once you decide what those are.
Did you honestly expect your boss to turn cartwheels and give you a promotion?
seemed to imply that it's up to me to decide where id like to go. He also said there's nothing wrong with staying where i am but that he likes to help people get to where they want to go. I askes about one position and he said I'd need to work on tech skills then he brought up another position that isnt even open.
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Hes all about goals and working on goals and i have a hard time coming up with goals which is what he wants.
Listen to your boss. Sounds like he knows what he's doing.
I just dont think i can work any harder than i am right now. I have a 7 month old and 2.5 year old...but there is a part of me that wants more...something different. I just dont know what exactly.
I just dont think i can work any harder than i am right now. I have a 7 month old and 2.5 year old...but there is a part of me that wants more...something different. I just dont know what exactly.
That is understandable. Children take a lot of time and energy. Take a moment to think if this from your employers point of view though. Why should they provide you with promotional opportunities or additional training if you have shown yourself lacking when can moared to others? It doesn't really matter why others are better performers than you, the fact remains that they are.
If the position was reversed, and you saw a coworker rewarded even though you were a better worker, how would you feel? Would you consider this just? Would you care why the other person wasn't performing well?
I just dont think i can work any harder than i am right now. I have a 7 month old and 2.5 year old...but there is a part of me that wants more...something different. I just dont know what exactly.
You can't put in minimum requirement and then think you'll get promoted. That would be unfair to everybody else who works their butt off. Be realistic.
You want something else, are you willing to work a different job, learn new stuff, new environment, etc. while having so much stress at home? Why not stick with the current job until the kids are a bit older so you can focus better? I would lean back a little and settle ... for now.
Why not stick with the current job until the kids are a bit older so you can focus better?
I agree. Kids that young take priority.
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