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Old 04-16-2019, 11:43 PM
 
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I don't think you over-reacted necessarily... I think it just went too far. Fun is fun, but talking about a guy's girlfriend has always been fightin' words. You were right to draw some battle lines. I wouldn't go out of my way to say more about it. Just let it go and be friendly in the days to come. My guess is, it will pass if you let it.
Maybe the OP could whip up a batch of brownies to bring into work so there is no hard feelings too.
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Old 04-16-2019, 11:45 PM
 
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So let me get this straight, it was OK with you when he made disparaging comments about OTHER women? And you're upset about his racist generalizations, but not about his sexist ones? Who's the douche bag again?
Of course. It is OK to talk trash about others, provided it isn't about you.
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Old 04-16-2019, 11:54 PM
 
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I work for a very large IT company, I'm in a team of about 15 people that come from varying demographics. but predominantly male. There's about 4 of us who are in our late 20's who naturally get along due to common interests and there's a lot of joking and sh*t talking back and forth which is fine, we tend to push the boundaries with what we say but it's always good natured and never gets too personal (well at least I thought so). There's one guy in my team who
I have a long history of working in IT and software. Your ages has nothing to do with it. You act like it is fun, but what it does is it creates a negative and cynical atmosphere because instead of witty banter it has quickly degraded to criticisms. Criticisms of each other and everyone and everything else, instead of enlightening conversations. I have avoided people like this, because they turn out to be not very bright. I make an effort to surround myself with intelligent people and that's far more fun than this childish behavior. You should give it a try, because you aren't going to benefit from it much better than being buds with a bunch of low-lifes.
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Old 04-17-2019, 12:50 PM
 
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Professional people have no interest in drama at work. You are going to build a reputation for yourself that will not be positive. If the guy spouts off again - make yourself higher than that and ignore it from now on. Grow up and refuse to be involved in work pettiness. If you are bored and have a need for excitement, pretend you are acting in a movie and play the role of a high earning corporate climber. Build your drama that way.
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Old 04-17-2019, 02:13 PM
 
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OP reacted perfectly fine. The bodybuilder Rob sounds like an emotionally insensitive person. You don't make fun of someone in a person's life, especially if that person (OP) is sitting right there and can hear it.

What if Rob made fun of OP's mom?
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Old 04-17-2019, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Yes, I think you are overreacting.

Ok--you are in your 20s, but you have a lot of years of work ahead of you. The one thing I learned extremely quickly is have a thick skin. If you don't have one--get one. And I say this after having worked with all types. You just cannot take stuff personally--it will make you (and your girlfriend) crazy.

Your co-worker sounds immature, insecure and obnoxious. Why do you care what someone like that thinks? Just ignore these people--let it roll off, or you are going to be dealing with petty BS forever.

They are coworkers--just act professionally, let them act like bozos, and you'll be fine. I'm sure others have his number too. Obnoxious coworkers are a headache and pain, but don't get pulled into their crap--it will never end. Keep the big picture in mind and don't sweat the small people.
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