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Old 04-24-2012, 08:43 AM
 
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys
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Where can I go where people are the least troublesome to one another?

My online research tells me Japan is a good match for me not only because of the low crime rate and reserved social norms as compared to other nations but also because of it's natural beauty, which is important to me.

However, I understand if you are not married to a Japanese national, you have to have a bachelor's degree to apply for citizenship (or is it permanent residency?). But I don't have a four year degree. I only have an associate's degree (two years).

I don't have any illusions about Japan. Yes, I know sometimes Gaijin's (foreigners) are isolated. That is acceptable to me and I even think I understand the Japanese rational for that. Still, I realize it's not perfect there. But it's not working for me here and I want to try something else. And, to be blunt, I don't want it to work for me here anymore.

But if I have to endure four years here through the stupid system I think I am going to lose it.

Not asking for help. I realize besides complying with one of the requirements to live in Japan, there's little else I can do. Just venting.
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Old 04-24-2012, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Please consider "venting" to a therapist.

It sounds like you could really use some help with the frustrations and disappointments of life.
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Old 04-24-2012, 08:51 AM
 
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Running away from problems is not the answer.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:03 AM
 
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Canada. People are extremely polite and friendly here and we smile at strangers.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Canada. People are extremely polite and friendly here and we smile at strangers.
Oh, we produce fake smiles just fine. That's not the problem.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:07 AM
 
Location: Infernuan
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Running away from problems is not the answer.
If the 'problems' involve being surrounded by people whose values do not mesh with yours and being in a shallow/superficial culture that is in decline then perhaps running away from them IS the answer.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Infernuan
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Canada. People are extremely polite and friendly here and we smile at strangers.
True. But the big bully to your south still has way too much influence.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:22 AM
 
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys
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Running away from problems is not the answer.
What if the problems are too big for any one person to fix? It seems to me the culture here is just....unfixable. It's beyond repair. I've never liked it here. I've wasted far too much time trying to rationalize it. I've never understood it. Why not try to abandon it?
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:26 AM
 
Location: DFW
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You create your own problems. I doubt there are many places you can go to get away to a trouble free life. Have you considered a cabin in the Rocky Mountains ? I hear the Uni-Bombers old place is available very cheap.

I see you are from NJ. Head west.
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Old 04-24-2012, 09:33 AM
 
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys
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Canada. People are extremely polite and friendly here and we smile at strangers.
HaHa...You would be a great representative for the Canadian tourist board. That sounds like you borrowed that from a commercial.

But I understand and appreciate your sentiments.

Just to clarify though: I would hate to think that people got the impression I was looking for blind deference. Polite indifference is fine. Not looking to be babied. It's the trouble makers and unnecessary social competitiveness that strikes a bad tone with me.

Not saying all countries don't have that. Just that maybe there is less of it in other places.
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