No More Sex
Posted 12-01-2008 at 12:59 PM by ScaredWoman
I am that predicament. My husband went from being the best sex I have ever had to losing his sexual libido. This is very frustrating to me because I love sex. I do love him oh so much, would not want to hurt him. He treats me so good as a queen. He is very manly but this is affecting him greatly. I am here for him but he fears that eventually I will cheat on him. I try to assure him that I am here for him regardless of the situation. But I am scared that I am fooling myself. Sex has always been a very extremely important part in my life. I am 36 years old and am very attractive. I am afraid that although now he treats me very good, it may change after he realizes I am not going nowhere....then what? What happens when he becomes comfortable with the situation and changes his romantic ways back to the way he originally was (unromantic). I fell in love with him at first sight, we are not married. We have been living together for 4 years and have 1 child together. I am scared that his worst nightmare may come tru eventually and that it will be my fault. How do I cope with not feeling my husband inside me? not feeling what i have loved so much, oh my goodness!!!!! I am lost, am I wrong for feeling this way?
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Okay, a couple of things:
Is he your husband or not? You started out describing him as your husband, but then you said you are not married. (???) Why are you not married?
Also, if he is worried you will cheat on him, I guess that means you have discussed the situation. It sounds like he wants to change. Has he discussed this with his doctor?Posted 12-01-2008 at 02:03 PM by Book Lover 21
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Could be he has found an alternate source. Or he has a health problem!!!Posted 12-01-2008 at 08:03 PM by STERJO
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Ok, how old is this guy... Can you say Viagra... You guys should also consider working out consistently as this increases your libido. More specifically your husband should take up squats as this particular excercise is the natural viagra in that it pumps alot of blood to the lower extremities - your looking at obtaining more than one orgasm by utilizing this method alone!
See Mens fitness - there is all kinds of good knowledge for him like this..
Watermelons are also a good libido booster as well
Or See a doctor and find out whats really going on there.
caio - hope this helpsPosted 12-02-2008 at 03:38 PM by Roland3dfs
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Hi there
I'm in the reverse of the situation so I thought maybe I could help. Has your husband been on any new prescriptions or have any medical issues or even been depressed?
The reason I ask is I was recently diagnosed with a few things and my boyfriend and I went from fooling around everynight to me being so tired I just want to sleep.
I am happy with a hug and a kiss and some cuddling, I haven't been able to save up enough energy for it and I love my boyfriend more then anything. I always worry about him leaving me but luckily we have talked about the situation and he understands the reason behind us not having sex as often and that I still love him as much as I did when I jumped him every night lol.
PS sometimes just spending time together can mean more then sex...(i said sometimes lmao)Posted 12-05-2008 at 08:18 PM by fibrochick1
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INTRIGUING. You are not married, but you call him your husband. You are 36, his is not told. You've been married 4 years and have a child...age not given.
Is it libido or some other mental/emotional or psychological trauma.
Firstly, is he ready to be officially married, and become the official husband and father?
Secondly, are you ready to be married and become the official wife and mother.
Thirdly, are you both sincere to yourselves and each other (and not covering up actual reasons like fed up with each other; found someone new; evading child responsibility; or anything else).
Fourthly, and most importantly together: have you both approached a doctor or marriage/sexual counsellor or a professional yet.
I am no specialist. My questioning is to step out of routine thinking, stimulate sensible reasoning and prompt action. Delay can hurt, and there is a child..two of you are accountable for. Best wishes towards your ambition.Posted 12-30-2008 at 07:40 PM by ThiruselvamK
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you're 36 and sexy? how old is he? Has he tried the little blue pill or anything else that would help him regain his spark? I know that sex is a huge part of a relationship, I wish you the best and if you ever need somebody to talk to, i've been thru the same thing as you...but it wound up costing me my relationship..first the sex goes then the communication then it just snowballs from there...sex is important to a lot of people...and by sex i mean making love alsoPosted 04-28-2009 at 11:11 AM by Moose1724
