What Men Say They Want & What They Get....
Posted 04-18-2009 at 04:07 PM by x2cme
Men love the idea of a woman who is highly sexed, devoted, true, sweet, caring, romantic, and above all, realistic and down to earth. She should be a trophy to wear proudly on his arm and at all times impress his friends with her humor, intellect, domestic perfection and charm. Oh yes, and of course, she must be all of these things and more, without being High Maintenance!
Men say this is what they want and that they don't want the drama and possessive or clingy attitude that many women are prone towards. But that's who they find themselves with, time and time again; those are the women that always manage get the man, those are the women that men go after.
The irony is that once they have chosen someone who ultimately makes them unhappy with the never ending drama's, then of course the man becomes 'entitled' to look for someone else to comfort them, to give them what they want, to give them what they crave, the sweetness, kindness, tenderness, understanding....
When does the cycle end? The woman of every man's dream does exist without the baggage, insecurity or dependency issues. The question remains unanswered, would he recognize her if he saw her and would he be compelled to be the kind of man, that kind of woman would want?
Men say this is what they want and that they don't want the drama and possessive or clingy attitude that many women are prone towards. But that's who they find themselves with, time and time again; those are the women that always manage get the man, those are the women that men go after.
The irony is that once they have chosen someone who ultimately makes them unhappy with the never ending drama's, then of course the man becomes 'entitled' to look for someone else to comfort them, to give them what they want, to give them what they crave, the sweetness, kindness, tenderness, understanding....
When does the cycle end? The woman of every man's dream does exist without the baggage, insecurity or dependency issues. The question remains unanswered, would he recognize her if he saw her and would he be compelled to be the kind of man, that kind of woman would want?
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A man never finds what he really wants and always settles for what he thinks is what he really wants. Most men are happy but it's not a complete package they are really looking for but the comfort and security. Men are very insecure just like women the difference is women express it. Most men think they want the sex up etc.... woman but they really want a clone like their mother and that's where lies the problem.Posted 04-19-2009 at 10:20 AM by luozi2966
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AAAMEN! Either you are a woman after my own heart,or you are a damned observant man.My guess is the 1st. I used to be exactly what men SAY they want,still mostly am, a "little" more insecure these days(thanks to a man just like the ones you describe).Ultimately,I believe alot of men deceive themselves into believing that"Miss High Maintenance" can be trained into being"a good woman".OR,some just don't care,as long as their friends are jealous of the illusion. I've got a good guy now,best one ever,but I still get my needs ignored occasionally.Doesn't make me REALLY mad unless I catch him looking at one of those who spends $200 a month on"personal upkeep".Any man who wants one of those gets what he deserves,my ex did,and I couldn't be happier about it.Posted 04-19-2009 at 09:42 PM by boomkitty
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I disagree. Men are more simple than that. They go where their penis leads them. That connection being made it is up to the woman to manipulate him into everything else. Unfortunately, in the last 20-30 years, women have finally decided that they wanted to have a "relationship or partnership with their husband" not just be a piece of furniture or a second mom. Men have not evolved quite as fast so we will have to wait for them to catch up.Posted 04-28-2009 at 06:31 AM by yukiko11
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I think that a woman needs a little of this and that. Only God really knows what is in a woman's mind. A man's attempt to please a woman becomes frugal around lets say 60% of the time.....
However, a woman "must" be high maintenenace including nice clothes, nice perfume, smiles all the time or at least most of the time and is smart. Who supplies the woman with the high maintenance? The man, of course..... A man's wacker really should not steer a man but the wacker seems to have a part in a man's selection of a women. I for one, do not let anything steer me. I follow the directions of what the voices in my head tell me what is right or what is wrong...Posted 06-18-2009 at 04:51 PM by Synergy1
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Thus is life, isn't it? I admit, as a man, that the specifics you listed are things I look for in a woman, but I think most guys won't turn away from a woman just because they don't fit all the criteria, and that doesn't mean his "penis lead him there" either. I think basically you're right, x2cme. In fewer words, men want someone who doesn't annoy them, first-and-foremost. If I can hang out with a girl, have a discussion and share some laughs without being annoyed by her, she's already ahead of the game and a potential love interest. The physical looks aren't what peak my interest first (I'd like to say I'm not very shallow), it's the answer to "How long could I hang out with this girl without her driving me crazy?" Next comes physical attraction and the dating phase, but the first impression a girl makes on me is always the decider.
My dream girl is one who is smarter than me - someone who can totally destroy me in a debate. I don't know why, but that's a major turn-on haha. The other stuff is up there too: humorous, sweet, caring, down to earth, (etc) and at least my version of attractive, not society's version. Will I ever find her, maybe. Maybe not.Posted 07-03-2009 at 10:01 AM by xGrendelx
