I would always react when my children did not comply with the school rules.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
My child does not like to read!
Posted 03-19-2012 at 03:05 PM by znljubica
Every parent knows how important reading is and that it is the foundation of any future independent learning. No need for further convincing.
I often hear the phrase:”My child doesn’t like to read”, which may have many meanings.
If the child cannot learn to read well and therefore does not like reading, you should immediately contact a specialist.
The phrase may mean that a child can read but he is reluctant to read in general, or it refers only to some literature, mostly school reading.
I used to say often this sentence as well, so I will describe its meaning in the example of my son.
As a preschool child he was very interested in numbers, when he was five, for example, he was dividing 500 dinars into 4 parts, but he wasn’t interested in the letters at all. His sister was reading fluently at the age of 6. But my son knew only 26 letters when he was 7 years old.
Very soon we realized that we must further strive to develop our son's habit of reading.
Picture books didn’t attract him, he was using them as toys. We surrounded him with children's encyclopedias with lots of illustrations and some text. He became interested. He made conclusions about the phenomena and events thanks to the illustrations and when they were not sufficient , he sought additional information from us. We would always start with: ''It says here ...'', then we would read the text and discuss its meaning.
He started school and learned how to read, with more difficulties than how to count, but no major problems. When he would ask for help in learning, we would first ask him to read text from books that it is not clear, and then we would talk about the meaning. We would never read it for him and give ready-made conclusions.
As soon as he learned to read, we made him into a library member, but we left the choice of books to him. He did not like to read about ‘’flowers and spring’’, and, besides the required reading materials, he mostly was reading encyclopedias and books that gave precise information. He loved history, and for his 10th birthday, he asked for a book about World War I. In the bookstore, he chose a two-volume book, Calvary and Resurrection of Serbia. We were buying children’s magazines, and he, regularly and with interest, was reading the magazine named Politikin zabavnik..
We were regularly monitoring the reading of obligatory school literature, because we thought it was a mandatory minimum of belles lettres. We were interested in his interpretation of the read books. That part was very interesting.
When he read the novel The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway, the main conclusion was that the old man went too far and that there was nothing he could do. All that struggle on the high seas did not impress him and he considered it as a consequence of reckless initial step.
Reading the novel The Bridge on the Drina, by Nobel Prize winner Ivo Andric, we remember because he was confused why the novel mentions the central pier if the bridge has 11 arches, which means that there is no central pillar.
My daughter was insistent on explaining him the meaning of Hamlet's ''to be or not be'', but only the final outcome had any significance to him, and he concluded the debate with:'' Oh, well, in the end they all killed each other, and that’s that.''
I did not interfere much with his interpretations. He was interpreting by the logic that there is a cause and consequence. Everything in between, for him, did not have any significance. I thought it was better that he has an opinion, at the cost of a lower grade in the Serbian language and literature, then to learn by heart the interpretations of literary critics and present them as his own.
Marks in the Serbian language and literature was 3(C) or 4(B) (out of 5), but his vocabulary was solid, and his writing was correct both in terms of grammar and spelling.
He completed his bachelor and master studies at the University of Technical Sciences with an average note of 10 (highest mark), now he is a PhD student, but he still does not read the nice literature. In addition to technical literature, he reads magazine National Geographic, historical and biographical books.
Even today, I am not sure if I should have insisted more on his reading of the literature.
My child
I often hear the phrase:”My child doesn’t like to read”, which may have many meanings.
If the child cannot learn to read well and therefore does not like reading, you should immediately contact a specialist.
The phrase may mean that a child can read but he is reluctant to read in general, or it refers only to some literature, mostly school reading.
I used to say often this sentence as well, so I will describe its meaning in the example of my son.
As a preschool child he was very interested in numbers, when he was five, for example, he was dividing 500 dinars into 4 parts, but he wasn’t interested in the letters at all. His sister was reading fluently at the age of 6. But my son knew only 26 letters when he was 7 years old.
Very soon we realized that we must further strive to develop our son's habit of reading.
Picture books didn’t attract him, he was using them as toys. We surrounded him with children's encyclopedias with lots of illustrations and some text. He became interested. He made conclusions about the phenomena and events thanks to the illustrations and when they were not sufficient , he sought additional information from us. We would always start with: ''It says here ...'', then we would read the text and discuss its meaning.
He started school and learned how to read, with more difficulties than how to count, but no major problems. When he would ask for help in learning, we would first ask him to read text from books that it is not clear, and then we would talk about the meaning. We would never read it for him and give ready-made conclusions.
As soon as he learned to read, we made him into a library member, but we left the choice of books to him. He did not like to read about ‘’flowers and spring’’, and, besides the required reading materials, he mostly was reading encyclopedias and books that gave precise information. He loved history, and for his 10th birthday, he asked for a book about World War I. In the bookstore, he chose a two-volume book, Calvary and Resurrection of Serbia. We were buying children’s magazines, and he, regularly and with interest, was reading the magazine named Politikin zabavnik..
We were regularly monitoring the reading of obligatory school literature, because we thought it was a mandatory minimum of belles lettres. We were interested in his interpretation of the read books. That part was very interesting.
When he read the novel The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway, the main conclusion was that the old man went too far and that there was nothing he could do. All that struggle on the high seas did not impress him and he considered it as a consequence of reckless initial step.
Reading the novel The Bridge on the Drina, by Nobel Prize winner Ivo Andric, we remember because he was confused why the novel mentions the central pier if the bridge has 11 arches, which means that there is no central pillar.
My daughter was insistent on explaining him the meaning of Hamlet's ''to be or not be'', but only the final outcome had any significance to him, and he concluded the debate with:'' Oh, well, in the end they all killed each other, and that’s that.''
I did not interfere much with his interpretations. He was interpreting by the logic that there is a cause and consequence. Everything in between, for him, did not have any significance. I thought it was better that he has an opinion, at the cost of a lower grade in the Serbian language and literature, then to learn by heart the interpretations of literary critics and present them as his own.
Marks in the Serbian language and literature was 3(C) or 4(B) (out of 5), but his vocabulary was solid, and his writing was correct both in terms of grammar and spelling.
He completed his bachelor and master studies at the University of Technical Sciences with an average note of 10 (highest mark), now he is a PhD student, but he still does not read the nice literature. In addition to technical literature, he reads magazine National Geographic, historical and biographical books.
Even today, I am not sure if I should have insisted more on his reading of the literature.
My child
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