I would always react when my children did not comply with the school rules.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
The child forgets school supplies and duties
Posted 02-18-2012 at 02:24 PM by znljubica
This is a very common occurance, not only with pupils but also with high school students. Unfortunately, it will continue even when the children grow up and get a job. This behavior can get them poor grades in school, and, later, poor results at work and in life.
We need to teach children the responsible attitude towards everything concerning their obligations.
Let’s start with early childhood.
After the play time, we’ll pick the toys and place them in the proper place. We could teach the child to list the toys he/she played with, to look for them and put them away. Before we go out with our child, to visits, on trips, to school, we could talk with the child about the clothes to wear, and then prepare it. We will start with underwear, socks, in the order in which children dress, the shoes and bags with toys. Together, we will take items, check them and leave them prepared until it’s time to leave. On the way back, we will encourage the child to list the things he/she carried with him/her, and check if everything is still there.
When the child goes to school, instead of toys ,we will pack school supplies . No matter if the child goes to school in the morning or in the afternoon, the night before ,we will prepare the clothing, home key, the money, if necessary, and then move on to the books, notebooks and other school supplies. We will read a timetable and prepare the books subject by subject. Very quickly, especially if child has done the same during the preschool period, the child will begin to prepare things whitout any help, all we have to do is clean and press the clothes.
Upon arrivingt from school,we talk to our child about every lesson of the day, about how the it went, new lessons and homework. The child should immediately learn new lessons and do homework, if ther is no time, make a list of obligations.
If our child started high school with a habit of forgetting to carry the necessary supplies or do homework, no big deal. Let’s start from scratch, from preparing to go out, going to the visit, the obligations of home to school obligations.
We will probably meet with resistance of a big child, but let’s be persistent. Of course it is not necessary to prepare things nor to do the homework together, but we need to explain how a systematic approach is important and how it protects us from the unpleasant and sometimes, dangerous mistakes. We can make a plan together to change bad habits and monitor fulfillment of the plan. Sometimes it is necessary to explicitly require a change of behavior.
If we, the parents, approach systematically the problem, our children will, as well, begin to have a systematic approach to their obligations.
My child
We need to teach children the responsible attitude towards everything concerning their obligations.
Let’s start with early childhood.
After the play time, we’ll pick the toys and place them in the proper place. We could teach the child to list the toys he/she played with, to look for them and put them away. Before we go out with our child, to visits, on trips, to school, we could talk with the child about the clothes to wear, and then prepare it. We will start with underwear, socks, in the order in which children dress, the shoes and bags with toys. Together, we will take items, check them and leave them prepared until it’s time to leave. On the way back, we will encourage the child to list the things he/she carried with him/her, and check if everything is still there.
When the child goes to school, instead of toys ,we will pack school supplies . No matter if the child goes to school in the morning or in the afternoon, the night before ,we will prepare the clothing, home key, the money, if necessary, and then move on to the books, notebooks and other school supplies. We will read a timetable and prepare the books subject by subject. Very quickly, especially if child has done the same during the preschool period, the child will begin to prepare things whitout any help, all we have to do is clean and press the clothes.
Upon arrivingt from school,we talk to our child about every lesson of the day, about how the it went, new lessons and homework. The child should immediately learn new lessons and do homework, if ther is no time, make a list of obligations.
If our child started high school with a habit of forgetting to carry the necessary supplies or do homework, no big deal. Let’s start from scratch, from preparing to go out, going to the visit, the obligations of home to school obligations.
We will probably meet with resistance of a big child, but let’s be persistent. Of course it is not necessary to prepare things nor to do the homework together, but we need to explain how a systematic approach is important and how it protects us from the unpleasant and sometimes, dangerous mistakes. We can make a plan together to change bad habits and monitor fulfillment of the plan. Sometimes it is necessary to explicitly require a change of behavior.
If we, the parents, approach systematically the problem, our children will, as well, begin to have a systematic approach to their obligations.
My child
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