Ghosted after traveling to meet a guy

[QUOTE=phillygirl123;63887597]I feel like a complete idiot. I met a guy on vacation in key west back in March. Had a great time and we kept in touch since. He kept telling me to come visit again. So here I am visiting key west for him for the weekend. He had asked me to stay with him but I booked a hotel just in case. Plans were to spend the whole weekend together minus the times he had to work.

We hung out Friday night and thought the night went fine. He stayed over and had work the next day so told me he would msg me after work at 7.

I didn’t hear from him all day.I was sitting there waiting for him thinking we were going out together. I finally msg him at 830 saying I’m hungry lol. He just wrote back “I was hungry all day”. I then said “when are you getting off work!?” Then he never responded. I am sitting there thinking the best of situation that maybe he fell asleep.

I go out to the bar and there he is with a friend. Completely shocked. Went over to him and said “what are you doing? I was here visiting you and waiting for you to msg after work. That’s completely disrespectful. I flew all the way here to hang with you”. He just said “oh I didn’t get your msg im sorry “ and then I walked away.

I am literally shocked. Like I was that bad that he felt the need to just ghost me after i came for him?!! Like I get if you’re not feeling it then just communicate that. Why are people so awful. No decency to just send me a quick message. Feel like I am always doing things for guys and making efforts where none is ever returned. Should I send him a message saying something ?[/QUOTE]

Not hearing the story from the other side is always terrible. I can take her at her word but interrogating his version of the story is needed.

What if she showed up and made a huge no-way mistake? Just because she showed up via air plane doesn't excuse a person from doing something ghost worthy.

Him saying, "I was hungry all day" seems to suggest he might have missed breakfast and/or lunch due to her. Who knows? On the surface, it is impossible to not feel sorry for her.