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Originally Posted by rdflk
This thread took a turn when someone or people apparently took a personal offense to Hopes use of the word 'disgusting' when commenting about family caregivers making a PROFIT -- NOT not being compensated -- but MAKING A PROFIT from caring for loved ones. Was the word "disgusting" a bit strong? Sure. But did it really need to start a "people who haven't been there shouldn't comment, you can't relate, how dare you" argument that just goes back and forth but never gets resolved. Really?
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I know. I really should stop.
Hopes made her opinion clear of those who are compensated for caring for relatives with dementia. She described anything more than being reimbursed for minimal expenses as making a profit off of relatives and that this was "disgusting." Further down the thread she referred to it being "hateful and selfish" if one expected to be compensated for caring for relatives.
Hopes story has morphed over the course of the thread, but she sounds like a remarkable person, sending money off to support the relatives she is not actually caring for in her home for years on end.
But I also find this rather unusual, as the people I know who devote their lives to good works rarely brag about it. Often they don't have the time. Usually, they see it as just doing their job.
Every family's financial situation is different. I believe it is perfectly okay for a caregiver to be compensated for the loving care of a family member. I take offense when someone says this is "disgusting," "hateful" and "selfish."
We're not talking about draining an elder's bank account or taking advantage of them financially. We're talking about charging a third to a half of what an ALF would charge.
If the OP's MIL has financial resources, there is no reason on God's green earth that the OP, or anyone else in a similar situation, should be providing free caregiving. To call this "disgusting," "hateful," "selfish," etc. is just wrong.