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Old 01-31-2017, 06:01 PM
 
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You have tried what ever you could find and your Mom needs rehab and more care than you can do.

You are correct a hospital is a short term place and then move on- I hope that other place works for you.

Does she have any doctor that could help you find a place-
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Old 01-31-2017, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Giant sack of land between new mexico and lousiana
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She has no doctor. I wish the hospital caseworker can help me out more. That facility is the only one of that kind in central texas. If a homeless nursing home can't take her in, then there is really no hope.
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Old 01-31-2017, 06:56 PM
 
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There is always hope buzz, just stay strong. Your mother can't be ethically discharged without a place to go. What has adult protective services offered in the way of care? Don't agree to discharge no matter how much it may hurt your heart. Wish there was an easier answer for you. Just know that others care. Peace.
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Old 01-31-2017, 06:59 PM
 
Location: Wonderland
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I agree. Just say "I cannot take care of her. She can't come home with me. It's not safe. I don't have the ability to take care of her."

Have you spoken in depth to the hospital social worker? There is one at just about every hospital.
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Old 01-31-2017, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Giant sack of land between new mexico and lousiana
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I know I have spoken to the case worker but I don't know if that is the same as social worker. All I know was the case worker was the one to tell me that she needs to be discharged. I don't know if it is of any help to have the case worker try to convince the facility I mentioned to take her in. That's the only option I have. It's hard to think positive when I get a bunch of let downs. The adult protective services at this point are not sure what to do. I also don't know if mentioning that facility to them will help either.
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Old 01-31-2017, 07:32 PM
 
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I know I have spoken to the case worker but I don't know if that is the same as social worker. All I know was the case worker was the one to tell me that she needs to be discharged. I don't know if it is of any help to have the case worker try to convince the facility I mentioned to take her in. That's the only option I have. It's hard to think positive when I get a bunch of let downs. The adult protective services at this point are not sure what to do. I also don't know if mentioning that facility to them will help either.
Is the hospital where your mother is in now the same hospital she was in immediately after her stroke?

Was your Mom living independently, in the correct county/Austin when she had her stroke? And then did she lose her apartment while she was in the hospital? Where is all of her stuff now?

If so, do you have any proof that she was previously living in Austin? Her last taxes etc...

The case worker could call the facility and confirm that your mother was a resident of Austin when she had her stroke, and that since her stroke she has been hospitalized almost the entire time and then lost her housing etc...

Can't hurt, right?
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Old 01-31-2017, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Giant sack of land between new mexico and lousiana
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Is the hospital where your mother is in now the same hospital she was in immediately after her stroke?

Was your Mom living independently, in the correct county/Austin when she had her stroke? And then did she lose her apartment while she was in the hospital? Where is all of her stuff now?

If so, do you have any proof that she was previously living in Austin? Her last taxes etc...

The case worker could call the facility and confirm that your mother was a resident of Austin when she had her stroke, and that since her stroke she has been hospitalized almost the entire time and then lost her housing etc...

Can't hurt, right?
No it is a different hospital in a different county (the county I live in). They sent her there because it was the closest to my apartment when she was hospitalized again. Before her stroke she was living in houston. She was in the middle of moving so she came to stay with me but that was when the health problem and hospitalzation happened. I had to cancel her lease for her apartment in houston. Since then she has had no address. Her stuff, most of it is gone. She has been living in houston almost the entire time she was in the United states but since she doesn't have a houston address anymore and she is in austin, she may as well remain in austin. I can't send her back to houston as there is no family there or no one that will care for her. she'll be in worse shape over there than in austin because of that.

She was residing in a nursing home and was taken to two hospitals in Austin. I should have the paramedics send her to a hospital in Austin instead of to a hospital in the outskirts of Austin. I screwed up once again.
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Old 01-31-2017, 08:07 PM
 
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You have the rental agreement as the proof of residency in Houston. Utility bills and drivers license would also be secondary documentation of her residency.

Maybe it's possible that the Austin facility could accept her through some arrangement with Houston if she met the residency requirements to be transferred to a respite care center in Houston. It's really a longshot but possibly worth a try.

I'm surprised she was residing in a nursing home if she doesn't have Medicaid.

In any event, both the hospital and the homeless shelter facilities are intended to be transitional. She will have to live somewhere if she can recover her basic abilities. Even gaining Medicaid access through SSI will be a temporary fix as her disability status is reviewed.
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Old 01-31-2017, 08:14 PM
 
Location: Giant sack of land between new mexico and lousiana
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You have the rental agreement as the proof of residency in Houston. Utility bills and drivers license would also be secondary documentation of her residency.

Maybe it's possible that the Austin facility could accept her through some arrangement with Houston if she met the residency requirements to be transferred to a respite care center in Houston. It's really a longshot but possibly worth a try.

I'm surprised she was residing in a nursing home if she doesn't have Medicaid.
the hospital that she was in paid for her stay on a charity case for 45 days. That allowed enough time for the nursing home to get her on medicaid but unfortunately she was denied. I have a question, if someone is homeless and they were living on the street and no address, how do these facilities know that they are residents of the county if they have no address there? The person could have taken a greyhound bus to the city and just stayed there. I rather have her be in austin as I am already here and If I needed take care of something that involves her, I rather drive 30 minutes rather than drive 3 hours. The address on her drivers license is invalid as she no longer lives there.
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Old 01-31-2017, 08:23 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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There is always hope. Don't give up. I was reading your posts and my heart truly goes out to you and your family.
I promise you, your mother will not be homeless. Please go to a local church. You might not be religious but at this point it is your best bet. A church may offer financial services or nursing care services at a low price (you may have to volunteer to get those things) a church may also be able to get you in contact with an attorney specializing in Elder care or immigration. Churches have lots of resources you should look into.
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