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My family and I are considering moving to Charlotte as we love the Ballantyne area. I have a major concern though as I have a 5 year old son who tends to like to play with girl toys and wear girl costumes (probably more than some boys who go through a "phase"). We currently live in Florida and had a situation where a woman my wife had befriended became comfortable enough with us to explain the our son had the devil in him and had a major sickness. We are finding down here that people share their religious beliefs a great deal more than they do in CT. I do not feel that people are more religious in one place vs. the other but that beliefs are more openly shared in Florida. I do not want to be somewhere where there is a high probability that we will come across people like the woman I described above as I know that if she believes that strongly about it that she is passing that belief to her kids that would be going to school with my son. I understand that children get teased everywhere, but there is a huge difference between getting teased and being told that you are sick or have the devil in you. So my question is....does anyone feel the Charlotte area has a high probability of facing these situations where people are not tolerant of the way my son is?
I just want to understand if there is a high probability that my son will be openly judged by people regardless of their beliefs. Once again, I feel like people down here in Florida openly voice their opinions around this topic much more than in CT. I am also getting feedback from friends that live in the area, but thought I would try this for some more unbias feedback as I know my friends want us to move there.
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I can ensure you this is not a troll thread. I am not expecting a debate...quite the opposite I could care less what people believe....to each their own. I just want to understand if there is a high probability that my son will be openly judged by people regardless of their beliefs. Once again, I feel like people down here in Florida openly voice their opinions around this topic much more than in CT. I am also getting feedback from friends that live in the area, but thought I would try this for some more unbias feedback as I know my friends want us to move there.
No this will not create a debate... Good grief.
Looking for unbiased feedback on an internet forum? Good grief.
Do you really think this is the best place for that kind of information?
My family and I are considering moving to Charlotte as we love the Ballantyne area. I have a major concern though as I have a 5 year old son who tends to like to play with girl toys and wear girl costumes (probably more than some boys who go through a "phase").
I would wait until after the elections before making a decision on moving. If your child truly identities as a girl, and this is not just a phase, your child would have a very rough time in school in North Carolina. North Carolina is the only state in the country where your child would be prohibited from using a bathroom consistent with her gender identity.
Goldenage1....thank you for a genuine response. That was part of the reason my concern had been raised. While I personally do not have an opinion on that policy, nor would I use this thread to vocalize any beliefs, it made me concerned that acceptance of my son within the community may not be as indifferent as I would like it to be.
Thanks Mob Town. It may be a phase (or not). I am probably being over protective. I just want to make sure I do not put him in a position of getting tormented. This move would be strictly by choice, so I just want to make sure I am taking everything into account. Other than this concern, Charlotte look awesome!!! We visited a month ago and ar going to go back in October to look around.
.... It may be a phase (or not). I am probably being over protective. I just want to make sure I do not put him in a position of getting tormented. This move would be strictly by choice, so I just want to make sure I am taking everything into account. Other than this concern, Charlotte look awesome!!! We visited a month ago and ar going to go back in October to look around.
I think you should check out the school which your child might attend and ask about their anti-bullying policy. Your child should be protected from being bullied for gender-variant behavior within the school grounds, whether it is a phase or not.
Charlotte is probably one of the more progessive cities in the state, but there are folks everywhere who could be critical of your child's behavior. Nobody can guarantee that your child will not be teased outside of school.
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Thanks Mob Town. It may be a phase (or not). I am probably being over protective. I just want to make sure I do not put him in a position of getting tormented. This move would be strictly by choice, so I just want to make sure I am taking everything into account. Other than this concern, Charlotte look awesome!!! We visited a month ago and ar going to go back in October to look around.
Looks like he might be tormented with your obsessing over him. He is a kid of five. He doesn't understand or know his sexuality at this point. Don't make him a little girl. When he is 12, he will know where his comfort zone is. As far as being picked on, hell yes he will be picked on and laughed at. That is what kids do. Charlotte is extremely liberal as it is very diverse. Much more so than most cities it's size and even larger. No matter where you go, if a little boy dresses like a little girl, there will be unpleasantness. It doesn't matter about "progressiveness." It would be no different for him in Boston, New York, or any other place. Let the kid make his decisions and learn how to handle adversity. My son went through it. He's great.
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