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Old 08-07-2009, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I must vent because I'm sick of this crap! This has inspired to me to carry two knives and Mace on me at all times. I never go out along after dark unless it's with friends. I need some advice.


I must stress that I DON'T dress in a way that would encourage this kind of behavior. I don't even look at the culprits.

Men with nothing better to do than whistle at me, honk their horns, and stick their tongues out at me in a suggestive way. I cannot even wait for a bus at 11pm without some men stopping their cars to say some obscenity. I'm constantly bombarded with "hey mame" which I find very insulting.

Women: How do you deal with this?

The men that do it: FYI- You're not making her feel special. You're making her feel scared, wear baggier clothing and insecure.

Not trying to bash this city, but when I lived in Miami Beach I never encountered such blantantly disrespectful behavior.
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Chicago- Lawrence and Kedzie/Maywood
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Waddup ma
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Hey what?
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Logan Square
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Um, you should be flattered?

White people never hit on me in public. If it wasn't for Mexican and Black guys I'd think I was a leper.
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:27 PM
 
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Um, you should be flattered?

White people never hit on me in public. If it wasn't for Mexican and Black guys I'd think I was a leper.
this is hilarious because it's unfortunately TRUE!


I just ignore them.
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:29 PM
 
Location: East LakeView
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Hello Miss! It is very nice to meet you! Nah, that's sounds to square and boring. I'll rather smile and say, "Hey ma, whutz crackin!"
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I'm flattered when a man approached me in a respectful way. Unfortunately the only times I'm approached in a respectful way is when I'm in San Francisco, Miami or out of the country. I'm not saying that I haven't run into rude comments abroad, it's just not on such a grand scale.

My mother thinks I should get a gun, but that's a little scary for me.

I'm INTENTIONALLY ugly here unless I'm going out with friends. It's come to the point where if I see a group of men, I generally cross the street. Am I being too paranoid? Ugh!
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:41 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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They say "hey mame" which is usually followed by a wagging tongue or kissing sounds. Is this a way to call prostitutes? I just can't see a respectable woman responding to this.

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Hey what?
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I have no idea what "hey mame" even means; I've never heard this in my life.
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Old 08-07-2009, 05:45 PM
 
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Am I being too paranoid? Ugh!
a little. you just have to ignore it.
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