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I have had a very rough 3 years so far at my college. Freshman and sophomore years I had some personal issues that I was working out with a therapist, and I had a really difficult time with relationships. I didn't get along well with my floormates Freshman year, and was too socially awkward and anxious to get involved with activities. Sophomore year I lived in a house that I loved, but had a conflict with one of the other people in the house who I dated for a short time. To make a long story short, I kept trying to talk to her and try to work out our conflict (maybe with the implicit intention of getting back together with her), and she didn't want to talk to me, so finally we had a big fight and she contacted res life. Now at my school if a girl contacts res life to complain about a guy, the guy gets moved instantly, no questions asked to the guy. So I was removed from the one place on campus that I felt comfortable and I had friends. Then Junior year I made friends with the freshmen on my floor, and started dating one of them. That lasted about 6 months and we broke up, and because she was friends with all the people on my floor, I distanced myself from them. Finally this summer I had someone who I thought was my friend, who lied and said he wanted to go on a trip with me, but at the last second flew to Chicago without telling anyone, or responding to my calls (I know, it's very strange).
So you see, it seems like a lot of people at the school, including the administration, are my enemies. I don't have problems making friends at home, and I have a good number of good, close friends. But here, I feel so isolated and hated, and in turn I put up a defense because I don't want to get hurt again. So does anyone have any advice for me?
Do you have any interest in rec sports or the campus activities board? Worry about finishing school and getting your degree. Do you work? Maybe a part-time job would do you some good.
Have you talked with your therapist since the latest events? Perhaps that would help a bit.
Also, when was the last time you went back home? Maybe it would be worthwhile to spend an extended weekend back around trusted friends and family. Might take the edge off and help you relax. When you come back, focus on your studies. Don't even bother with the girls.
If none the above work, can you transfer to a different school to finish up your senior year? Although I would NOT want to do that, unless it was my last option.
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