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The Dillard's clerk was out of line. The clerk was criticizing the girl's body and I don't know how you spin that in a positive way. The part where the clerk is still arguing with mom and daughter as they are trying to leave is obnoxious. I'm glad mom called the clerk out.
That being said, I couldn't imagine wearing that dress without some good foundation wear.
Still, it's not the salesclerk place to point that out.
It is one thing to mention foundation garments / shapeware much as a sales person might make jewelry, shoe or other suggestions in an effort to sell more or enhance the look. It is quite another to badger customers, particularly minors. If she indeed wouldn't let up and followed them out of the dressing room she definitely crossed the line.
We don't know what really happened. Nothing wrong with the salesperson suggesting shapewear under a clingy dress - it just makes the dress look better. It doesn't matter if you're fat or not. However, this girl is too heavy, but that's not the point of shapewear anyway.
The girl would've looked absolutely stunning in that gown if she had been wearing some kind of "smoother" underneath it. She has exactly the right kind of curves to pull it off. They just need to be more controlled. That doesn't mean reduced or eliminated. The gown is clearly meant for her body type. The sales clerk was doing her due dilligence when she suggested Spanx to a) sell the gown - which was clingy and NEEDED a shaper underneath it, b) sell a shaper (an add-on to the potentially current sale), and c) help the girl see how remarkable she looks with all those gorgeous curves, when adorned in the right clothing and with the proper foundation beneath it.
Since we don't have access to the actual conversation, we don't know if the clerk was less-than-kind about HOW she presented the ideas, or if mom was getting defensive over absolutely nothing at all.
Fact is fact though - that girl would've looked like a superstar in that gown if mom had simply done as the clerk suggested.
I have a very strong feeling that mom's version of events are somewhat skewed. Of course a sales person is going to suggest shapewear. First of all, it's a helpful suggestion, secondly, she probably has "upsale" quotas she has to meet. It's not body shaming to make a suggestion that could improve the way the garment falls on the body. Hell, I know skinny women who wear spanx.
You really do need Spanx for a dress like that. It doesn't matter how big you are. A good saleswoman for formal dresses or bridal wear can also help you figure out what undergarments you need in order to make the dress look right. I think the saleswoman was trying to do her job.
I saw this story a few days ago and thought the mother was really overreacting. My daughter would be mortified if I posted a photo of her with a story like that.
The girl's not really heavy...she looks about the same size as my daughter, who wears a 10. Almost any dress looks great on my daughter, with the proper undergarments. And it would on that girl too.
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