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I know someone in this situation and I feel so bad for her because she didn't choose to have this child yet here she is raising another child because her daughter abandoned her young children.
Her daughter had 3 with 2 having different baby daddies. The grandma took one in full time and another family member took the other and the baby daddy's mom took the other. So in this case there are 2 grandmothers having to raise kids all over again.
If you are now the primary caregiver to the child, is your daughter/son still involved in their child's life? Do you resent that you're having to raise a child again? How has it affected your life positively and negatively?
Last edited by diddlydudette; 06-01-2014 at 08:32 AM..
My husband and myself have been raising our Grandson for almost 3 years now. He is now 7. He came to live with us when he was 4. My son shows up every 2 to 3 months and rants and raves how much he misses his son and how it is so wrong that we are caring for him and then disappears for another 2-3 months. So, to answer your question of - Do you resent that you're having to raise a child again? How has it affected your life positively and negatively? No, I don't resent it. I wish that we didn't have the added stress of his unstable father to deal with. Overall it is positive that we are helping a young child grow and thrive in a more stable environment. Sure, I miss my quiet time and it is hard on the aging body having an active boy (family baseball every night). I don't miss activities with my peers. It has helped me look at life from a different perspective. Sometimes you just need to be of service and go with what has been placed for you.
We adopted 2 infants only 4 months apart in age when we were 55 and 63 so you could say we are grandparent age raising children again. Our situation is different I know cause we don't have no good baby mama and baby daddy to deal with but all the demands and challenges are still the same. It's been a blessing to everybody--most days. And like any other parents or grandparents of a certain age, we get tired and have to keep pushing ourselves. But to think of these kids with somebody else or stuck in the poverty they surely would have endured is too sad to contemplate.
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