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First off, I'll kind of explain myself somewhat. I'm in my upper 40"s, a very shy person who has gone through life without many actual friends or acquaintances. Self esteem has often been low even though I know that I'm a good person. Nice people see me as a really nice guy. Depression has set in over the last few years.
Not a great conversationalist. Social situations give me anxiety. I'd much rather listen to someone than do more of the talking. My wife travels a lot, (no children) and I work alone in a service type job, (landscape). I do well in short spurts of conversation, but that's it.
Anyhow, once in a while I'll really "click" with someone (a customer lets say), and have a really good conversation. It doesn't happen as much as I'd like, but when it does, it REALLY lifts my spirits. And desire that to happen much more often. It's just so hard, and if I force it I start to get anxious and stumble
Does anyone else feel this way, as far as their spirits being lifted when "clicking" with someone?? I'm sure it does, but just wanted/needed to get this out.
I know what you mean OP. My son had a co-worker come to my house for us to meet, a older lady my age and we "clicked". She and I can sit and talk or be on the phone with none of those silent pauses, its amazing. I dont know why it happened this way, as our lives certainly are nothing alike. I was raised in Ca. she in MO., I have kids and grands, she doesnt. Our love for animals is the only thing I can really say we have in common, but its like we're long lost sisters.
Hope you can get up the nerve to ask for the phone numbers of the people who you click with.
It does make sense that they'd be lifted, but it seems that it's getting me down more often than it used to. Before, I didn't seem to need it as much.
I know what you mean & I've just learned to appreciate those connections or "clicks," for the temporary time it is.
Sometimes, I try to become friends with them - even if just through email.
Life really is full of paradox.
We need people, but we need to not need them too much, otherwise our happiness is in their hands.
Yes. That is why even when you are low go out and meet and talk to people it lifts the spirits.
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. Thanks for your words Bree. 
