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I thought better of this post after I'd posted it, but I don't see a way to delete our own posts, so I'll just severely edit it.
With the edited version, it will probably wind up on the Relationships board. Sorry for the trouble, mods.
As anyone relocated and wanted to move back, but the spouse was adamantly against it? How did you resolve it? Did you ever move back?
If you had to wait a very long time to move back--say, didn't want to move the kids until college when they'd be in different places anyway, and that was a matter of years--how did you deal with it?
This is pretty vague but I just didn't want to get slammed...I'm in southern California, where my husband is from; originally we had lived (married) together in New Jersey, where I'm from; I badly want to move back home...but he apparently never does. In fact, he says he doesn't want to always be in L.A., but that if/when "we" do move, he wants it to still be out west. I don't want that. Thanks sincerely for any help and any experiences.
I thought better of this post after I'd posted it, but I don't see a way to delete our own posts, so I'll just severely edit it.
With the edited version, it will probably wind up on the Relationships board. Sorry for the trouble, mods.
As anyone relocated and wanted to move back, but the spouse was adamantly against it? How did you resolve it? Did you ever move back?
If you had to wait a very long time to move back--say, didn't want to move the kids until college when they'd be in different places anyway, and that was a matter of years--how did you deal with it?
This is pretty vague but I just didn't want to get slammed...I'm in southern California, where my husband is from; originally we had lived (married) together in New Jersey, where I'm from; I badly want to move back home...but he apparently never does. In fact, he says he doesn't want to always be in L.A., but that if/when "we" do move, he wants it to still be out west. I don't want that. Thanks sincerely for any help and any experiences.
Definitely! I don't often come across folks in similar situations as I and it's frustrating when no one understands.
About 5 years ago I was living in a more 'rural' area of PA when I met a woman from Philadelphia,a place I've had issues with from years before but I gave it a chance and somehow I ended up married and stuck here!
And anyone that knows hardcore Philly girls knows that they don't want to live more than a few blocks from their moms! Long story short and after endless tries I guess I am pretty much stuck in this hell until further notice.
Definitely! I don't often come across folks in similar situations as I and it's frustrating when no one understands.
About 5 years ago I was living in a more 'rural' area of PA when I met a woman from Philadelphia,a place I've had issues with from years before but I gave it a chance and somehow I ended up married and stuck here!
And anyone that knows hardcore Philly girls knows that they don't want to live more than a few blocks from their moms! Long story short and after endless tries I guess I am pretty much stuck in this hell until further notice.
Well in that case I hope that Your Wife Loves You at least as much as she loves her mother
njguy, I agree that it could always be worse. But homesickness is a very real thing and it hits one very hard. One's environment truly does color all parts of one's day, every day. It's an odd phenomenon because you'd think, Okay, I'm a grownup, I'm not a fourth grader crying for home at summer camp, I will assimilate. But when you've lived your entire life in one area, and move to an area so entirely different you barely recognize it as planet earth, well...it can be good for people who HATED home; but awful for people who LOVED home. And lemme tell ya. Los Angeles county really is a different planet. Not in all "bad" ways or anything. There are solid reasons that this is a desirable area. So it's not really about better or worse. It's about different...a scooch too different.
It's more about that for me than about hard times. StuckPA, I am sorry to hear things went so downhill for you. To my mind, that WOULD be a reason to move...I mean a real, solid reason. Is there a better place where you feel your family would do better? Have you discussed this with your wife?
It's more about that for me than about hard times. StuckPA, I am sorry to hear things went so downhill for you. To my mind, that WOULD be a reason to move...I mean a real, solid reason. Is there a better place where you feel your family would do better? Have you discussed this with your wife?
njguy, I agree that it could always be worse. But homesickness is a very real thing and it hits one very hard. One's environment truly does color all parts of one's day, every day. It's an odd phenomenon because you'd think, Okay, I'm a grownup, I'm not a fourth grader crying for home at summer camp, I will assimilate. But when you've lived your entire life in one area, and move to an area so entirely different you barely recognize it as planet earth, well...it can be good for people who HATED home; but awful for people who LOVED home. And lemme tell ya. Los Angeles county really is a different planet. Not in all "bad" ways or anything. There are solid reasons that this is a desirable area. So it's not really about better or worse. It's about different...a scooch too different.
JerZ - I know that I didn't elaborate but maybe I think StuckPA might be having marital problems too, that's just a gut feeling that came over reading his post - I could be dead wrong (I apologize if so) and hope I am , hence what I said.
I can relate to what you were saying, as I only visited someone in Illinois for a month located in farm country and it seemed to change me for the worst. I felt so out of place from my "home" urban type environment.
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Not in all "bad" ways or anything. There are solid reasons that this is a desirable area. So it's not really about better or worse. It's about different...a scooch too different. 
