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Background: We have a new fellow starting at work. I was out of the office on the day that he came to interview, so I didn't meet him; everyone else at the office did, however. I was faxing at the machine when a colleague came and started idle chit-chat which segued into talking about the new guy and his start date. And then this sentence was uttered. I was really taken aback by this, and caught off guard.
If you have had this (or something similar) said to you, how did you react to it?
Background: We have a new fellow starting at work. I was out of the office on the day that he came to interview, so I didn't meet him; everyone else at the office did, however. I was faxing at the machine when a colleague came and started idle chit-chat which segued into talking about the new guy and his start date. And then this sentence was uttered. I was really taken aback by this, and caught off guard.
If you have had this (or something similar) said to you, how did you react to it?
I'm not clear on something. Was it said as a command? As in "We like him, so play nice, or else."
Or was it more like a prediction? As in, "We all know you fairly well, and you seem to like the same people we like. We like him, so chances are, you'll like this guy, too."
Based on what you wrote, it sounds like it could be meant either way.
I'm not clear on something. Was it said as a command? As in "We like him, so play nice, or else."
Or was it more like a prediction? As in, "We all know you fairly well, and you seem to like the same people we like. We like him, so chances are, you'll like this guy, too."
Based on what you wrote, it sounds like it could be meant either way.
Agree with RockJock, I'm unclear. It seems like it was a prediction. If it was intended as a prediction, if it were me, I would not articulate it in that manner BUT it doesn't seem out of place or unreasonable considering the fact that everyone else met him and liked him.
I'm sure it was just an innocent comment, I wouldn't read much into it.
That said, I've actually been in a situation at work where everyone did like him...but I didn't. This particular guy was the life of the party type, overly friendly even in the office. He always had stories and everyone (all the young gals like me anyway) seemed to fawn over him. I pegged him as a BSer as soon as I met him. I kept my distance and stayed cool and generally had no interactions with him besides a passing professional one. Much much later I found out that someone had reported him for sexual harassment and he got in trouble. Everyone had assumed it was me (since they knew I wasn't a fan) and apparently many of them, and he, had given me the cold shoulder for awhile. It shows how little attention I paid to office politics that I never even noticed any of this and just laughed when I found out later a year later. He told people he thought it was me, probably to get back at my lack of attention. I had no clue and had never reported him for anything since I wasn't around him enough to even care what he did. But obviously my gut feeling about him was spot on.
I'm not clear on something. Was it said as a command? As in "We like him, so play nice, or else."
Or was it more like a prediction? As in, "We all know you fairly well, and you seem to like the same people we like. We like him, so chances are, you'll like this guy, too."
Based on what you wrote, it sounds like it could be meant either way.
I would have taken it like the bolded part above.
Unless you work for the Mafia, then I would change my answer to the first option.
I'm sure it was just an innocent comment, I wouldn't read much into it.
That said, I've actually been in a situation at work where everyone did like him...but I didn't. This particular guy was the life of the party type, overly friendly even in the office. He always had stories and everyone (all the young gals like me anyway) seemed to fawn over him. I pegged him as a BSer as soon as I met him. I kept my distance and stayed cool and generally had no interactions with him besides a passing professional one. Much much later I found out that someone had reported him for sexual harassment and he got in trouble. Everyone had assumed it was me (since they knew I wasn't a fan) and apparently many of them, and he, had given me the cold shoulder for awhile. It shows how little attention I paid to office politics that I never even noticed any of this and just laughed when I found out later a year later. He told people he thought it was me, probably to get back at my lack of attention. I had no clue and had never reported him for anything since I wasn't around him enough to even care what he did. But obviously my gut feeling about him was spot on.
This is exactly what I'm guessing is the situation with this new guy. It wasn't so much a command as a matter-of-fact statement, but it definitely had a bit of that "peer pressure" vibe to it.
They've also talked about how "eager" he is about the social aspects of the office (which I, personally, can't stand), so that is making me think that I definitely won't like him.
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