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My wife has 7 siblings. We usually split the bill up per each nuclear family if we are all out together based on what was ordered. (basically we all pay our way... there would be no expectation for one person to pay for 10+ people (depending on how much of the family was there).
Honestly no. My brothers always offer to pay so willingly and happily.
They won't expect us to pay for meals at all.
My brothers even paid for my college tuition and my rent. They are awesome and I am blessed!
That is awesome of your brothers but a serious question for you. Please don't take this offensively but I'm just merely trying to understand the mentality. As an adult, why do you feel that is appropriate? Again, I understand that your brothers can afford it and not to say that you shouldn't accept their generosity, but why not offer to pitch in even if it's a paltry sum of whatever you can afford. Granted knowing they won't accept anything, but wouldn't that be the right thing to do as an adult? If you never offer to pitch in, wouldn't they somehow some day feel that your taking things for granted and taking advantage of them?
That is awesome of your brothers but a serious question for you. Please don't take this offensively but I'm just merely trying to understand the mentality. As an adult, why do you feel that is appropriate? Again, I understand that your brothers can afford it and not to say that you shouldn't accept their generosity, but why not offer to pitch in even if it's a paltry sum of whatever you can afford. Granted knowing they won't accept anything, but wouldn't that be the right thing to do as an adult? If you never offer to pitch in, wouldn't they somehow some day feel that your taking things for granted and taking advantage of them?
This is just our family tradition. It has always been this way. That does not mean that we treat my bros like doormats (Trust me, they are not)
I love my brothers. If my sister and I or mom and dad offer to pay for the meals, it would be just, well, weird.
This doesn't mean that we take them for granted. For example, I always made a big deal about my two brothers' birthdays, special occasions, my mom and I planned my brother's wedding. Now my brother is in the hospital, mom and my sister in law and I take turns taking care of him. When my other brother was in the Marine Corps, I sent him gift basket, care package, letters. etc. That kind of stuff.
My brothers paid for my tuition and my rent when I was in college. When they were single, they took us out every Friday night. We are a very close family. They told us once their money is our money, and honestly, my money is their too. I can do anything and everything for my families.
That is why we don't really dwell on who is paying for the meals.
However, I think I understand where you are coming from. If one family member is taking advantage of everybody else, then that is another story. By no means, am I suggesting that one person should pay for everybody's meal, this is just our family tradition. Not a lot of families are like ours.
I am a very protective little sister. Nobody is going to take advantage of my two brothers! =)
My wife has 7 siblings. We usually split the bill up per each nuclear family if we are all out together based on what was ordered. (basically we all pay our way... there would be no expectation for one person to pay for 10+ people (depending on how much of the family was there).
7 sibs in my family, too, and we do the same.
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Now my brother is in the hospital, mom and my sister in law and I take turns taking care of him. When my other brother was in the Marine Corps, I sent him gift basket, care package, letters. etc. That kind of stuff.
