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Now that he is an adult, the relationship is still cold and distant unless they want some money from him for some financial emergency. He had loaned his parents and sisters lots of money to try to buy their love and rarely is it paid back. The "loan" made them friendly for a short while but then coldness returned.
Wow. Your husband is such a good person for still trying to help them out after all of that.
I never understood how people avoid someone for years due to significant reasons, but after they've passed on, they're at their funeral? They've got to sort it all out in their own minds and hearts whether they want the person in their life or not way before the funeral!
Last edited by Nanny Goat; 04-26-2014 at 05:00 AM..
When my husband was growing up he had a very cold and distant relationship with his parents and sisters. No one really liked each other and his parents would not show any interest in my husband's hopes dream and feelings. In fact they rarely talked at all and if they did it was just to direct him to do something. "Get ready for school!" "Clean your room" "Turn down the TV"
Now that he is an adult, the relationship is still cold and distant unless they want some money from him for some financial emergency. He had loaned his parents and sisters lots of money to try to buy their love and rarely is it paid back. The "loan" made them friendly for a short while but then coldness returned.
Last time the parents request was too much and he said no. They hung up the phone and have not talked for almost two years. (They live 200 miles apart.)
If it were you, would you try to make contact with them or wait for the funeral or family emergency?
Stay out of it. People become estranged for good reasons.
Life is too short for toxic people. Shared DNA does not make a family. I would leave things as they are and enjoy the peace of not being pestered for money.
Totally agree! I grew up in an extremely toxic household --- hatred, animosity, jealousy, abuse, etc etc etc. There is no reason for me to be in touch with any of my living siblings (one is deceased). I left as a teenager and never looked back. I like to think of it as escaping the loony bin just to keep my own sanity.
I never understood how people avoid someone for years due to significant reasons, but after they've passed on, they're at their funeral? They've got to sort it all out in their own minds and hearts whether they want the person in their life or not way before the funeral!
Some of us go to those just to make sure the stinking, lying, alcoholic, abusive, less than human is actually dead.
Besides there is always free food after the funeral.
Some of us go to those just to make sure the stinking, lying, alcoholic, abusive, less than human is actually dead.
Besides there is always free food after the funeral.
It is so sad that someone who brings a child into this planet ends up being so cold and cruel to them. I could understand it if my husband was a difficult person or a criminal but he is very nice, friendly, successful and has a very mainstream personality. He is a conservative Accountant with a successful career and a life of good deeds.
It is so sad that someone who brings a child into this planet ends up being so cold and cruel to them. I could understand it if my husband was a difficult person or a criminal but he is very nice, friendly, successful and has a very mainstream personality. He is a conservative Accountant with a successful career and a life of good deeds.
I agree.
Now, on a different subject, how is your nephew's job search going? Is she still working for minimum wage?
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