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It is your choice to say nothing but don't expect your alleged friends to say anything if you don't.
Next time flat out ask them if they are jealous of your nappy head, ask them if they are jealous of you in general and that is why they think it is funny to insult you.
Then shake your head and walk out without a response, go to your room, go for a walk, do something but ignore them after that.
You are being bullied in your own home because you are continuing to allow it to happen. Find a new place to live, find actual friends but fight your own battles with calm assertive questions not screaming insults back at them.
Its not my home, its a homeless shelter. This woman, Im not friends with her, I dont know her and she doesnt know me. These other people reinforcing her, Im not friends with either but I was on good terms with.
Its difficult to not be around them particularly on weekends when people stay in for a while. All I can do is not speak to them when in the same space. I cant throw them out. I just look defeated to these people all because I didnt continue arguing with her or called her names in return or punched her in the mouth. Thats the type of stuff these people admire.
That might be what they admire, but you're better off not to get into ridiculous fights. Taking the high road is a lot better than sitting around arguing with random people. There may be people there who see you as the better person for not sinking to that level. They are the ones I'd associate with. And focus on people on the outside who can point you the right way to help you out of the cycle you're in. Good luck to you!
The attitude that makes you not respond at their level and not throw insults back is the attitude that will get you out of that shelter and on to a better life. Stay strong and walk away.
Its not my home, its a homeless shelter. This woman, Im not friends with her, I dont know her and she doesnt know me. These other people reinforcing her, Im not friends with either but I was on good terms with.
Its difficult to not be around them particularly on weekends when people stay in for a while. All I can do is not speak to them when in the same space. I cant throw them out. I just look defeated to these people all because I didnt continue arguing with her or called her names in return or punched her in the mouth. Thats the type of stuff these people admire.
Why do you care what random strangers think of you? You are taking the high (and safe) ground by not arguing. In the end, arguing back won't mean anything.
You need to focus your energy on changing your situation.
Maybe it's just that good old mob mentality. I have a neighbor who spreads all kinds of oddball rumors about me. She's very skilled at making people miserable. I'm just her most convenient target.
I am one of those "wish bone" people. I have no idea how to respond in my situation either. I don't respond at all, actually.
Now that I'm starting to toughen up I see my neighbor has some real serious mental issues. And I guess it's just human nature for the other neighbors to believe her as I make no effort to know them and have no desire to, believe me. Not even for self-preservation purposes!
Its not my home, its a homeless shelter. This woman, Im not friends with her, I dont know her and she doesnt know me. These other people reinforcing her, Im not friends with either but I was on good terms with.
Its difficult to not be around them particularly on weekends when people stay in for a while. All I can do is not speak to them when in the same space. I cant throw them out. I just look defeated to these people all because I didnt continue arguing with her or called her names in return or punched her in the mouth. Thats the type of stuff these people admire.
The best revenge is living well. Do what you need to do to get yourself out of that place. Ignore those people and focus on making a better life for yourself. That will speak more loudly than anything you could say to her/them.
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