One of my best friends adult kid is a freeloader (person, sister)
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I am very concerned about a close friend of mine. She has a daughter who is in her forties who moved in with Mom and Dad after she lost her job in the Great Recession in 2009. Now 6 years later the daughter still lives with her parents and still does not have a job and not a dime to her name.
The daughter is living a life similar to a teenage girl but without school and a part time job to keep her busy. She does not drive and has no money and does not contribute to the household in any way. Other than sleeping, she just hangs around the house and watches television and reads. The daughter has no kids, does not involve herself in volunteer work or attend church.
My friend does not think it a big thing. Should her friends or family get involved?
Do you know any adults in their forties who live with their parents and don't work or contribute to the household at all?
My friend does not think it a big thing. Should her friends or family get involved?
Do you know any adults in their forties who live with their parents and don't work or contribute to the household at all?
No, and no. Your friend is an adult and can decide what to do about her own child. Rare are the parents who welcome unsolicited advice about something they have no problem with. If she asks for your help, then talk to her.
Isn't it the role of a close friend to get involved when someone is letting them be taken advantage of?
FYI: The freeloading daughter is a very nice person, with above average intelligence, well spoken and up to 2009 had a good job history as an Office Manager. She is not facing any intellectual, emotional or physical challenges other than being LAZY.
Isn't it the role of a close friend to get involved when someone is letting them be taken advantage of?
FYI: The freeloading daughter is a very nice person, with above average intelligence, well spoken and up to 2009 had a good job history as an Office Manager. She is not facing any intellectual, emotional or physical challenges other than being LAZY.
It is not the role of a friend to interfere with family relationships. The exception would be if you suspected abuse.
MYOB, unless asked.
There could be a ton of reasons why the parents have no problem supporting their adult daughter. It's their home, their money, their daughter . . . and their decision.
It's great that you're concerned, but sometimes giving unsolicited advice can backfire.
I can't think of anything that is less your business than the apparently satisfactory relationship between your friend and her daughter.
Don't you have issues in your own life to worry about?
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