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OP, I think you are being very patient and understanding. Six months dating does not necessarily mean "happily ever after."
Personally, I think she's being an ungracious brat, but that's not really your problem -- it's your SO's problem. I'm a little disappointed that he is letting her dictate his love life, but obviously, he's not quite ready to rock that boat. OK, it's only been six months.
I'm wondering how much influence his bratty daughter had on the ending of the previous two relationships . . .
She needs to suck it up. Sometimes you have to be professional and deal with people you really don't care for.
Uhm, this isn't a job interview, it's a family. Professional has nothing to do with it. And no, the daughter does not have to deal with anyone she doesn't want to actually.
Uhm, this isn't a job interview, it's a family. Professional has nothing to do with it. And no, the daughter does not have to deal with anyone she doesn't want to actually.
Say it again please. The daughter doesn't have to accept anyone. Now if the daughter is willing to meet her then she can be decent. I'm not saying be best friends or have a lengthy conversation. Just answer the OPs questions. The daughter doesn't actually have to initiate any dialogue with the OP. However, she can't be going in trying to start drama as in openly be contemptuous.
You know, my mom dates losers. I hate them. The recent one is racist. One tried touching me. She had always forced me to meet them. Just leave her alone. You don't know the history there. This is his daughter, you are his girlfrend of 6 months. Its clear to me.
UPDATE: I had lunch with SO today (sorry to those of you that feel SO is inappropriate to use, but BF seems sort of juvenile. Anyway...). He was very excited, he said not long after daughter arrived yesterday, she said she'd like to meet me. (I'm not sure how old she is, mid to late 20s I would guess). The night she suggested, I have to work, so he's going to talk with her about it again and try to find a different day everyone might be available. He's thinking we can all go out to a restaurant for dinner. So I didn't have to do a thing, he's happy and it all worked out!
Thanks for all the feedback! I'm glad I didn't make a big deal out of it. I'm not in any rush to get to know his family, as we are just dating (although we are exclusive). But he seems to feel really strongly about wanting all his kids to know who I am. Oh and for those that asked, he has had two relationships since his divorce, one for 2.5 years and the most recent one was almost 6 years.
glad it worked out. She is being nice to her dad, but likely she still doesn't want to meet you. I was totally for my parents getting divorced, but I never wanted to meet anyone my parents dated unless it was *long term* and 100% committed (like marriage). When my mom did get remarried, I accepted him as part of the family, quirks and all. But she chose him, not me. So...
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I did the math and you're both right. When Daughter was visiting last summer, you had only been dating Dad for a month or two, correct? I can understand Daughter's reluctance to meet someone who may have only been a casual date. After six months, she may feel that there is more permanency and is willing to invest herself in making your acquaintance.
You, OP, have played your hand just right. And I hope you all have a pleasant meeting.
Regardless of the outcome, you have shown you have real class.
Lots of good points here. I am not sure why SO wants his kids to meet me so badly. Acceptance from his kids seems important to him. All three kids hated his ex girlfriend; it didn't stop him from dating her but it really bothered him. If I were in his shoes, I don't think I'd be in any rush to introduce my kids to someone I was dating. Not much I can do about how he feels about it though.
Lots of good points here. I am not sure why SO wants his kids to meet me so badly. Acceptance from his kids seems important to him. All three kids hated his ex girlfriend; it didn't stop him from dating her but it really bothered him. If I were in his shoes, I don't think I'd be in any rush to introduce my kids to someone I was dating. Not much I can do about how he feels about it though.
Does the kids' feelings determine the future of your relationship? They may never want to accept anyone.
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