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Or, for that matter, give even single women friends and semi-close acquaintances a hello or goodbye kiss?
Men friends mostly get to shake hands with each other so do some women feel kissing a single guy friend is a cultural imposition they grudgingly feel they must go through?
I would much rather just shake hands hello and goodbye or just wave to avoid any weird vibes or wrong signals. I don't want women to think I'm going to take a kiss on the cheek the wrong way or that I'm somehow creepily looking forward to a kiss and hug each time we meet. Frankly, I'd just rather not deal with it because I don't want any woman to feel compelled to kiss me just because she's friends with a relative. I know how women will sometimes reluctantly or grudgingly do things they really don't want to do and I don't want to be something that's "forced" upon somebody else because of social convention.
Should I put my foot down and just announce I've stopped exchanging kisses with all my women friends and semi-close acquaintances and that I prefer handshakes? Or am I just going to create more problems? When I've tried just shaking hands with some of my female relative-in-law acquaintances they either reject the handshake and lean in for a kiss or the older women around us butt in and tell me to "give her a kiss. What's the matter with you?"
What should I do?
Last edited by Shankapotomus; 12-27-2014 at 03:12 PM..
You are way over thinking this. If they are your friends, just let them take the lead. No one is going to mistake a goodbye peck on the cheek for anything other than what it is.
My ex kisses me on the cheek in front of his wife just like he does to all his female friends. Just be consistent in whatever way you choose to greet and part with all.
It depends what the norm is in your group. If your friends generally greet each other and say goodbye with physical affection, a kiss or a hug, it makes no difference if they are attached or not, but if you usually just say "hi" and now you just want to start kissing them hello out of nowhere, it's going to seem a bit weird to them whether they are attached or not.
I don't want women to think I'm going to take a kiss on the cheek the wrong way or that I'm somehow creepily looking forward to a kiss and hug each time we meet.
Friends still kiss each other on the cheek, outside of France?
We're going to have some weird cultural differences between Citi-Data members. Just do whatever everybody close to you does unless you have a lip fungus. Don't think too much about it.
Ah, no I'm not. I'm the one getting negative vibes from the exchanges. That's why I said I would rather not exchange kisses but just shake hands.
That's the whole reason I'd rather just shake hands; people such as yourself who jump to those kinds of self-flattering conclusions. Maybe that's what you like to think every time a guy who isn't your BF has to kiss you to satisfy conventional expectations?
Maybe they just don't want to be dragged into your head trips?
Last edited by Shankapotomus; 12-28-2014 at 02:07 PM..
In some regions, it common to do a fake peck on the cheek when greeting someone. It's not a big deal.
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