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If you're a liberal Democrat you don't go join the Young Republicans because they have social functions close to where you live that sound fun, than hope no one discusses any politics.
Right. I could probably meet a lot of dudes if I went to a sports bar during a hockey or basketball game, but the fact that I don't give a rat's patoot about sportsball games would soon become apparent.
You're not understanding. While I agree with what you said about there are other things to talk about besides the church at church social gatherings, at some point someone would ask the OP "what mass do you attend", or "I go to the 9am mass, want to join me"....it's going to come up.
Just like "what do you do for a living", "are you married" is going to come up.
If the OP answers "well I don't really believe in religion or church(hey maybe they don't believe in God and that is their choice), I just joined to have someone to have coffee with at get togethers", it is going to viewed as odd, regardless of how liberal the church is.
It's not that important what us posters here on CD view it, but it will be when the issue comes up(and it will come up), it will be viewed as odd and could be off putting to others, which defeats the purpose of trying to meet people.
Find an event/group that does things that you actually enjoy, because the way to start new friendships is to find people who have similar interests.
You call yourself "Ruth for the Truth", you should see this.
No. There is no mass. Mass is a Catholic thing. The "services" at these churches aren't about God and Jesus. They're about general spiritual inspiration. At some of them, the services are lead on a rotating basis by leaders of a variety of non-Christian faiths; Native American, Hindu, Tibetan Buddhist, Zen Buddhist, and these "teachers" are part of the church community, part of the staff. It's more like a course in Comparative Religion than a Church service.
The people here posting suggestions for the OP, and talking about their churches are saying that he wouldn't be viewed as odd. They're welcoming him. We're not talking about him going to the social gatherings. We're talking about him going to the church services. You seem to have misunderstood that.
Wow, a church going poser ?
Hint, you might want to get a gold chain with a IXOYE symbol to wear around your neck to burnish your image while you're there !
Women love them !!
Not the women who attend UU churches, and other highly ecumenical churches. Not women at the kind of churches we're talking about.
Women go to these churches for the social benefits, too. It's not just men. It's worked out pretty well for the women I know who have done that.
Why do I have a feeling that in a few months, we'll see a post about someone who started attending church-sponsored events with no interest in being religious, and they're annoyed that everyone keeps trying to convert him?
That doesn't go on in the type of churches we're suggesting for the OP. This was already explained once, early in the discussion, before you posted.
Right. I could probably meet a lot of dudes if I went to a sports bar during a hockey or basketball game, but the fact that I don't give a rat's patoot about sportsball games would soon become apparent.
Exactly, you would be better going to events that interest you.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
No. There is no mass. Mass is a Catholic thing. The "services" at these churches aren't about God and Jesus. They're about general spiritual inspiration. At some of them, the services are lead on a rotating basis by leaders of a variety of non-Christian faiths; Native American, Hindu, Tibetan Buddhist, Zen Buddhist, and these "teachers" are part of the church community, part of the staff. It's more like a course in Comparative Religion than a Church service.
The people here posting suggestions for the OP, and talking about their churches are saying that he wouldn't be viewed as odd. They're welcoming him. We're not talking about him going to the social gatherings. We're talking about him going to the church services. You seem to have misunderstood that.
Well whether you call it mass or services or lectures, the OP said they're not interested in attending them.
Ruth, the OP said in his first post "For me, I'm only there to meet people. I have no interest in attending mass (I'd much rather go to other social activities if a church offers it".
He is clearly stating he is in fact looking for social gatherings.
He is also in a rural area, so I guess that does make it tougher to meet people, but at some point the issue of attending services is going to come up.
You don't seem to get it doesn't matter to the OP if one week there is a Buddhist Monk, and than the next a Hindu, the OP isn't interested in any of that.
You said "we're not talking about him going to social gatherings".
When in fact that is what the OP stated in their first post, they're looking for social gatherings.
i actually grew up in a rural area and went to church with a lot of activities (ELCA lutheran)
i'd say about 1/4 the kids who went to the ski trips weren't members of the church and 1/2 the member kids who showed up for activities never actually went to church on sunday.
that said, I don't know if there's really that many activities at a church for adults (especially adult men) that isn't churchy. if there is it's usually something like a food drive or fundraiser dinner or breakfast, not really a "social club" kinda thing.
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