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What do you think of people who don't say "hi" or anything back when you greet them?
I just moved into a brand new apartment building where there are not a lot of tenants yet, and while most people have been friendly, there's a few neighbors that when I see them and say hello, they just look stone cold, avoiding eye contact, and never greet me back. Some even stare at me like rapists/murders, and I tried to break that creepiness by saying hi, but nope, nada. It's practically each time, so now I just don't say anything to them, and it creates such an unfriendly environment because I see these people every week.
Also, some people at work are like that. I say hi and good morning to them, but they just
go on their own way and don't greet back. I find it rude and very unfriendly, but hey, I shouldn't be surprised. There seems to be more bad than good out there these days.
I try to be understanding and not take it personally. I try to think okay, maybe that person has major depression or a personality disorder that makes them unresponsive. But overall I find it irritating--I mean, how much energy does it take to say a single syllable back? It's not like you're asking them to be your BFF.
I give them one chance and then I don't waste my "Hi!" on them any more.
Sure, it happens...I just shrug it off. I figure they are either rude, or perhaps there is more to it. You never know if they are going through something bad and are perhaps too distracted to even notice you. It's not worth it to obsess over it.
I try to be understanding and not take it personally. I try to think okay, maybe that person has major depression or a personality disorder that makes them unresponsive. But overall I find it irritating--I mean, how much energy does it take to say a single syllable back? It's not like you're asking them to be your BFF.
I give them one chance and then I don't waste my "Hi!" on them any more.
I feel the same way. I work at a small college in a small city in a predominantly rural area, and the faculty and staff at the college form an even tighter community within the larger one. Saying "hi" or waving to your neighbors or acquaintances is just what people around here do, only more so around the college because we mostly all know one another.
There's one woman who works in my unit, though, who doesn't speak to anyone any more. I'm guessing it's something psychological because she was pretty normal when she was first hired (or seemed that way?). Over the years, she just started shutting people out and not talking to them, which was very hurtful to many people, me included, who couldn't figure out what they had "done" to her. I think most people have figured out by now that it's her and not them.
She walks down the hall and looks right through people. She never says "hi" to anyone. She never ever participates in special events like retirement celebrations, lunches out, football pools, etc. I don't think she's had a single social conversation with anybody in our department (all 6 of us) in probably 5 years. It's her life, though, and if she chooses to wall herself off from society -- or allow her psychological issues to rule her to that extent -- there's really nothing anybody can do to about it.
What do you think of people who don't say "hi" or anything back when you greet them?
I just moved into a brand new apartment building where there are not a lot of tenants yet, and while most people have been friendly, there's a few neighbors that when I see them and say hello, they just look stone cold, avoiding eye contact, and never greet me back. Some even stare at me like rapists/murders, and I tried to break that creepiness by saying hi, but nope, nada. It's practically each time, so now I just don't say anything to them, and it creates such an unfriendly environment because I see these people every week.
Also, some people at work are like that. I say hi and good morning to them, but they just
go on their own way and don't greet back. I find it rude and very unfriendly, but hey, I shouldn't be surprised. There seems to be more bad than good out there these days.
Blow it off, and move on. It is almost a guarantee it has nothing to do with you, and if it is... what is your fretting over it going to change?
I try to be understanding and not take it personally. I try to think okay, maybe that person has major depression or a personality disorder that makes them unresponsive. But overall I find it irritating--I mean, how much energy does it take to say a single syllable back? It's not like you're asking them to be your BFF.
I give them one chance and then I don't waste my "Hi!" on them any more.
Many times I'll say hi back but sometimes my voice is probably too low to hear or it gets mumbled. Sometimes I just don't react quick enough...
I'm incredibly introverted and sometimes that takes over and I just hope no one thinks I'm trying to be rude. Based on the responses here, I can see that is exactly what people think.
I tend to smile, and that means hi in my book. I'm not the most vocal person, I cannot even say good morning. Like ever. And if I MUST utter it, it feels SOOO unnatural. But yeah I know I'm weird that way.
I'm introverted too, but I will say and smile back to people. This just bothers me more today because one of those neighbors left me a passive-aggressive note on my garage stall this morning. I think if people were more friendly to begin with (like a hello, welcome to the neighborhood), they wouldn't have to be so passive-aggressive.
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