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Hi my SO is holding a birthday party for me which is awesome! One of the guests has already informed us that they will be attending, however, they have children sothings could come up. Well yes I understand that they didn't need to clarify. Now I got an email wanting a list of who is attending? I think that is kind of rude. Just me???
Hi my SO is holding a birthday party for me which is awesome! One of the guests has already informed us that they will be attending, however, they have children sothings could come up.
What does their children have to do with anything? Are the children also invited?
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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The people with kids want to know who is also invited? So like if they don't get along with someone and they are on the list they won't show? Yeah...I think it is rude....
I can understand casually asking who else might be there as a curiosity satisfier, but requesting a list of invitees? Yeah, falls into the rude category.
They have already conditioned their attendance on their children's situation, so maybe they are looking for advance information they can use to decide if their kids are going to have an issue that will prevent their attendance.
My response would depend on whether or not I cared if they showed. If they wouldn't be missed, I'd ignore it. It's rude.
If you would like to see them, it's still rude, and you'll never know if they decide not to come if it's because of the guest list. My reply would be something along the line of "SO planned it, the guest list is a surprise to me, hope you can make it".
Hi my SO is holding a birthday party for me which is awesome! One of the guests has already informed us that they will be attending, however, they have children sothings could come up. Well yes I understand that they didn't need to clarify. Now I got an email wanting a list of who is attending? I think that is kind of rude. Just me???
Utterly.
1. The "Something might come up" thing should tell you a lot right there. It really means "Something better might come up." Yes, there's the occasional illness or flat tire that prevents you from showing up. But someone who keeps their host on pins and needles like that is just rude.
2. Wanting a guest list? Really? They are coming to be with you. They are not looking at the list to decide if your party is worth their time. Anyone who makes demands like that regarding the guest list should be stricken from it forthwith.
Regarding an earlier post on this thread. It is not strange. It is indeed rude. I get tired of stuff like this being fobbed off on personality tics.
Do you know why they asked? I've never heard of such a thing, but maybe they have a reason. It's not an inherently rude request.
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