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Literally every time I ask his opinion on what I should do about something, he says, "It's up to you." Every time I ask him which restaurant he wants to go to for dinner, he says, "It's up to you." Basically, whenever I ask his opinion about something or about where I should go or what I should do, he tells me it's up to me. I know so many people would like this, but I can't stand it. He never decides anything, and I always have to, and I am horrible at making decisions. One of my friends does this too. Whenever we are hanging out, and I ask him what he wants to do, he says it's up to me. When I say it's up to him, he laughs and says, "I seriously don't care. You have to work on making decisions." Well, why should I have to decide every freaking thing? I will make decisions a little bit of the time, but I am sick of making them all the time. I prefer to just go with the flow, meanwhile, I'm always forced to make the decisions, even when I'm in a group of several people. How do I tell people, particularly my father, that I do not want to make every single decision? And is there anyone else who would find it annoying to have to make all the decisions?
Literally every time I ask his opinion on what I should do about something, he says, "It's up to you." Every time I ask him which restaurant he wants to go to for dinner, he says, "It's up to you." Basically, whenever I ask his opinion about something or about where I should go or what I should do, he tells me it's up to me. I know so many people would like this, but I can't stand it. He never decides anything, and I always have to, and I am horrible at making decisions. One of my friends does this too. Whenever we are hanging out, and I ask him what he wants to do, he says it's up to me. When I say it's up to him, he laughs and says, "I seriously don't care. You have to work on making decisions." Well, why should I have to decide every freaking thing? I will make decisions a little bit of the time, but I am sick of making them all the time. I prefer to just go with the flow, meanwhile, I'm always forced to make the decisions, even when I'm in a group of several people. How do I tell people, particularly my father, that I do not want to make every single decision? And is there anyone else who would find it annoying to have to make all the decisions?
So you are admittedly also horrible at making decisions, yet you want your dad to be better at it?
Literally every time I ask his opinion on what I should do about something, he says, "It's up to you." Every time I ask him which restaurant he wants to go to for dinner, he says, "It's up to you." Basically, whenever I ask his opinion about something or about where I should go or what I should do, he tells me it's up to me. I know so many people would like this, but I can't stand it. He never decides anything, and I always have to, and I am horrible at making decisions. One of my friends does this too. Whenever we are hanging out, and I ask him what he wants to do, he says it's up to me. When I say it's up to him, he laughs and says, "I seriously don't care. You have to work on making decisions." Well, why should I have to decide every freaking thing? I will make decisions a little bit of the time, but I am sick of making them all the time. I prefer to just go with the flow, meanwhile, I'm always forced to make the decisions, even when I'm in a group of several people. How do I tell people, particularly my father, that I do not want to make every single decision? And is there anyone else who would find it annoying to have to make all the decisions?
First of all you need to sit down and discuss this with your Father nicely, softly and like an adult.
I have a neighbor who is the same way, she can't even make a decision about what she wants to order to eat...and we discussed it and she told me, b/c her hubby made all the decisions and that is simply the way it was....(he hubby passed away) They had a good marriage, she enjoyed the fact that he made all the decisions...however, now it's tough for her to change.
So, you might want to research this a bit further and think about why he feels this way, instead of getting all hot and huffy about it...
He is a human being, and we all think and believe differently about things....apparently this is who he is, and you certainly can't change people...so suck it up and have a discussion with him but nicely...
don't yell at him or tell him your sick of it...chose your words nicely.
And to, maybe, just maybe he gave you advice and you got angry about it, so now he choses to allow you your own directions?
Whatever it is...surely doesn't help matters if your going to treat this as a war....
You're probably too young to understand the line "It's up to you". He loves you too much that those questions you asked are really "up to" what YOU want not him. So think before you complain about him not making decisions.
I understand that it's up to what I want. But, I am laid back, and I am fine with anything people decide to do or anywhere they want to go for the most part, so I don't want to be the one to choose everything.
I understand that it's up to what I want. But, I am laid back, and I am fine with anything people decide to do or anywhere they want to go for the most part, so I don't want to be the one to choose everything.
Next time ask him, "Do you want to go to dinner at McDonald's* or Arby's*?" If he says, "It's up to you," then reply, "OK, we are going to Wendy's*."
I understand that it's up to what I want. But, I am laid back, and I am fine with anything people decide to do or anywhere they want to go for the most part, so I don't want to be the one to choose everything.
If you are laid back and "fine with anything," and your dad is too ...
Just make a few decisions, they won't be happy about.
Such as "which restaurant do we go" ? Pick the one you like the best, or choose one of several you like equally to be the least convenient for them, or if you don't mind checking out new restaurants then "let's go for something new".
When a question comes of what to do, try to offer "hanging out at their place" or go for something you really like and they don't.
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