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IMO, the only possible truthful answer is "It depends on who it is!"
Our son has a tendency to drop by now and then, and just walk in without knocking. That's OK. Our daughter does the same, but less frequently. That's OK, too.
Very few other people drop by. That, too, is OK by me., I don't feel that UPS or Fedex can be expected to call ahead!
I was painting the dining room when I have people show up to stay for a few days without a call. My house was not up to par as I had to take down wallpaper and scrape off all the glue .. I was frazzled at that moment they showed up with suitcases in hand. They were supposed to come a few days later and came a few days early.
Oh he11 no! You cannot come to stay with me and show up days early. First, my schedule is not such that I am going to drop all my plans and entertain them because they can't make a simple phone call to ask if it's convenient. They knew it wouldn't be, that's why they didn't call first is my guess. If I've made a commitment to friend A to do something and friend B shows up unannounced and expects me to change my plans (and my other friends') to make him happy, just not cool. The world does not revolve around the inconsiderate person, and I don't like to reward that kind of behavior.
In this world of everyone having a cellphone, there's really no excuse for not calling ahead. Now if it's just a neighbor from the street dropping by for a minute to ask something, that's no big deal, and if I'm not busy I might ask them in for a beer or ice tea. But coming early, whether it's a half hour or a couple days, is just not cool. People need time to clean up the house and themselves and prepare food or what have you.
We never have drop-ins. We make plans in advance and it seems all our friends and family do too, or in rare cases someone might text to see if we're around if they are going to be nearby later that day.
I know drop-ins seemed more common when I was a kid, but I wonder if because my mom and so many others were SAHMs that they weren't doing housework, laundry, etc on the weekends and had a Saturday more open and available to drop by for visits.
I might be a little embarrassed at laundry in the den, etc., but if you're my friend, that shouldn't matter. And if you don't call before you come, what you see is what you get. :-)
Drove me berserk. I'd show up to the door with my proverbial "guns loaded". It was always a stranger peddling their wares. I'd be nice but firm.
It' so "rural", be it a friend...
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Hell yeah, I'd have an issue with it. I would hope my friends would have enough respect for my spot to call and ASK if they want to come over to my apartment. Popping in on me like poof, I have a friend whose probation officer is more respectful than that.
I have had people do this to me, and it drives me insane. The way my house is set up you can see my front room through the door so I can't pretend I am not at home. I don't mind close family parents or grand parents but any one else bugs the crap out of me.
It would be unheard of. How grossly rude to do that to someone. I would ignore the doorbell. And I would get a new door so people couldn't see in. Sounds like if you can tell when you're home, you can probably tell when you're not, and might as well hang a sign for a burglar: "Free stereo! Free TV!"
with me, its not about how I'm dressed, but I cherish my down alone time, and certainly want a call if your coming to visit. Now, family no, but others, absolutely, I want the option to say, this isn't a good time, I'm getting company, or I had plans for today.
and if someone shows up unannounced, that is exactly what I'd tell them.
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