Folks Who Expect You To Talk To Them on THEIR Terms?

[ItsRick24]

Originally Posted by CinnaBunney

What is the deal with the type of folks who say they will get back to you, but don't until days, even weeks later, and when you don't answer them in the timely manner that suits them, they say things like "Now you can't speak to me"? How do you respond to people like that? Suggestions please! That crap bugs the hell out of me.

I've known people just as the OP described and to them I say "**** YOU and the horse you rode in on!" What makes them so special that they can't communicate with me???

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by eureka1

I certainly disagree with you. Adults in this society have BUSY periods. That's just life.

Yes, I know they do,. And now you hear this excuse in business/professional settings.

Let me give you an example so maybe you will get it. About a month ago I inquired at my local bank about some information on money markets/ investments. The person who handles that wasn't in but the woman I spoke to took my information and he was to call me to set up an appointment.

He never did, I was back in there a week later and asked the same woman, she said she did contact him and was shocked he didn't get back to me.

I'm not difficult, I let a week go by. She gets him on the phone live and than she tells me he is taking classes and is just so busy.....LOL.

That's what I mean, I told politely "that's not my problem, I'm a client, that's the excuse for everything today when people don't do what they're supposed to do".

Busy is code for "I don't want to be bothered" or " I screwed up but I won't admit that so I say I'm just so busy".

[JasperJade]

Originally Posted by CinnaBunney

What is the deal with the type of folks who say they will get back to you, but don't until days, even weeks later, and when you don't answer them in the timely manner that suits them, they say things like "Now you can't speak to me"? How do you respond to people like that? Suggestions please! That crap bugs the hell out of me.

"Who is this?"

[brava4]

Originally Posted by elnina

I write them off. No need to ponder about it.

Totally agree with this. I look at it like weeding the garden. When it takes so much energy to have certain people in my life, when I am getting pissed or drained.. it's the heave ho...bye bye.

[nc17]

Originally Posted by eureka1

I certainly disagree with you. Adults in this society have BUSY periods. That's just life.

In the past, I was gullible enough to honor a favor for a friend, instead of honoring my obligation to work. And it feels like I'm still paying for that mistake, 8 years later. For most people, our priorities and livelihoods are linked to our jobs, and we may disappoint people along the way. I feel a house and a paycheck takes precedence over holding a promise to your friends/peers, unfortunately. We have to live with our decisions either way.

[626ladee]

People are different tho. I have people in my life that passively aggressively throw fits because I don't feel the need to chat them every week or few days. Now I'm just doing me,if it's something important I'll get back to you but if it's another moanfest about how their husband doesn't take them out anymore I'm ignoring that unless I'm bored and even then blah. If someone's mode of contacting you isn't okay for you let them go or else accept them for who they are. There's always someone else you can call.