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*Facepalm* - speaking of relevant info, I should've also added that my sibling and parent are in favor of the trip just being the 3 of us.......
When you got married, your spouse became your immediate family and is now your most important family member. Your parent and sibling sound like they are trying to wedge themselves between you and spouse.
If I were in your shoes, OP, I would work on a compromise where you spend a couple of days in NYC with your mom and sister and then your wife joins you. The 4 of you spend a day together, the next day your mom and sis head home and you stay a few more days with the wife. Everybody wins: you get the alone time with your family-of-origin that you wanted. Bonds get strengthened between that family unit and your wife. You and your wife get to build memories in a location she has always wanted to visit. And you save on airfare by only having to pay for your ticket once.
It's not weird. Keeping your own contact with your family of origin is healthy. I didn't go to my in-laws every time my husband did. Sometimes he'd take 1 or both of our kids over while I did something else. Sometimes I'd go over on my own too. And I saw my parents a lot on my own because they lived close by and H worked while I stayed home with the kids.
This is solely because everyone lived within 20 minutes of each other. It may play out slightly different if distance is a factor but you are married, not totally joined at the hip. You will realize that once you're older.
It's not weird. Keeping your own contact with your family of origin is healthy. I didn't go to my in-laws every time my husband did. Sometimes he'd take 1 or both of our kids over while I did something else. Sometimes I'd go over on my own too. And I saw my parents a lot on my own because they lived close by and H worked while I stayed home with the kids.
This is solely because everyone lived within 20 minutes of each other. It may play out slightly different if distance is a factor but you are married, not totally joined at the hip. You will realize that once you're older.
My sole reason for that was that I thought going gender-neutral would be the best way to get unbiased responses.
Why would you think you'd get biased responses? If anything it calls attention to the fact you're doing that and poses a distraction IMO.
The question you post doesn't change regardless of whether you're in an opposite or same sex marriage, and one more thing...Congratulations on your marriage. You're a newlywed!
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