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I'm one of those people who likes talking about myself. I love when people ask me questions. I love hanging out with one of my friends because she takes an interest in me, and is so good about making me feel special and keeping the conversation focused on me. Last night, someone came up to me and asked me about the holidays. Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
I'm one of those people who likes talking about myself. I love when people ask me questions. I love hanging out with one of my friends because she takes an interest in me, and is so good about making me feel special and keeping the conversation focused on me. Last night, someone came up to me and asked me about the holidays. Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
What is up with that? Am I the only one?
You aren't the only one, but it's not a good thing.
I'm one of those people who likes talking about myself. I love when people ask me questions. I love hanging out with one of my friends because she takes an interest in me, and is so good about making me feel special and keeping the conversation focused on me. Last night, someone came up to me and asked me about the holidays. Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
What is up with that? Am I the only one?
I think it's pretty normal. Just try harder next time and pretend you care.
I'm one of those people who likes talking about myself. I love when people ask me questions. I love hanging out with one of my friends because she takes an interest in me, and is so good about making me feel special and keeping the conversation focused on me. Last night, someone came up to me and asked me about the holidays. Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
What is up with that? Am I the only one?
Sadly, no one is going to feel this way about hanging out with you. Maybe if you ask about others you'll discover they are as interesting, or maybe more so, than you are.
I've learned that you shouldn't always focus the conversation on yourself. When you come across with "I this...I that..." you're conveying the message of "Me, me, me. It's all about me!" That's a major turn-off to people as you give the impression that you're self-centered and don't care about others.
I'm one of those people who likes talking about myself. I love when people ask me questions. I love hanging out with one of my friends because she takes an interest in me, and is so good about making me feel special and keeping the conversation focused on me. Last night, someone came up to me and asked me about the holidays. Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
What is up with that? Am I the only one?
No, you're not the only one, but eventually I dumped the "friends" who were like you.
No, you're not the only one, but eventually I dumped the "friends" who were like you.
Yep... if you don't even want to try to give a damn about me, I want no parts of you.
When I come across people like that, they never even reach the acquaintance level.
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Originally Posted by aneye4detail
But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
That is not an 'oops'.
That is a conscious decision to stay narcissistic, to not foster a relationship.
Now because I've learned over the years the proper etiquette, etc., I knew that after telling her about mine, I should in turn ask about hers. But I found myself standing there thinking, "ask her about hers," and a voice came back that said, "but I don't really care." So I didn't ask! Oooops!
What is up with that? Am I the only one?
No, you're not the only one, but if you continue to behave that way, you might find that your group of friends starts to shrink.
Ever think that the people that you are talking to about yourself don't really care about your plans, but have the common courtesy to be polite?
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