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Anyone who thinks brother is going to stop his behavior based on a conversation with his sister, is dreaming. All you'd be doing, OP, is alerting him to the fact that he must be more careful.
Let his sloppy behind be discovered by his wife - and if she's able to cope - SHE will decide what she wants to do about that.
Talk to your brother and let him know what you saw. Tell him he needs to tell his wife or you're going to tell her yourself. If he is hooking up with random women his wife deserves to be protected from something that could potentially cause her great harm.
What your brother is doing is selfish but age appropriate. It seems like he wasn't ready for the commitment. It's a very common reality in his age group. It still doesn't excuse the fact that he's putting his wife in harms way. She needs to know one way or another.
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Perhaps she cheated on him multiple times?
First of all that is pure speculation, and secondly, even if it was the case, that is no reason for him to do so. Where are your morals? And I am an atheist.
Tell your brother what you saw. Let him do the confessing.
^^^THIS^^^
And let him know, without question, that if HE doesn't tell her, YOU will... That she doesn't deserve his deceit and the lies that he's told and will continue to tell if it were to continue.
I've been the OP's brother - as sad as it is to admit - I've been the lying, cheating, deceiving husband. AND I WEAR THAT EVERY DAY! My wife and I are trying to recover from it - and I resent even the thought of what I did. I can't change what I did, but I will NEVER do that again. I hurt the woman that loves me like she's loved no other - for what?... a meaningless, sexual encounter. I am ashamed to have done that to her, and I punish myself every day for those actions.
Talk to your brother and let him know what you saw. Tell him he needs to tell his wife or you're going to tell her yourself. If he is hooking up with random women his wife deserves to be protected from something that could potentially cause her great harm.
Really? You all are continuing to post replies to this 1-post newbie? Ridiculous!
Yes, we don't discriminate. One post or a thousand. The OP has concerns that he's posting here and those of us who care to, are responding.... EVEN TO YOU!
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When people have an open marriage they usually don't tell their brother. Don't tell me you never knew anyone like that.
Let's try Occam's Razor instead.
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