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So there was a big rift in my family several years ago following the death of my grandmother. I put several relatives at a distance due to their behavior. But I've reconciled with some of those relatives, who are very dear to me. All signs point to us picking up our very close relationships where we left off when I am back home. I have missed them terribly.
I am the only member of my family that lives far away. When I am home, I would like to host a holiday dinner at a local restaurant for my generation only and their children. Do you think this would be appropriate? Or would the older generations (some of whom I am close to) be rightfully offended?
It would probably be okay to have one during the holiday season, but it would be cruel to leave the elders out on the holiday itself. Also some of your generation probably wouldn't attend if it left their parents alone on the holiday.
It would probably be okay to have one during the holiday season, but it would be cruel to leave the elders out on the holiday itself. Also some of your generation probably wouldn't attend if it left their parents alone on the holiday.
It would not be ON the holiday. Just during the holiday season.
It wouldn't bother me at all if my kids got together with their cousins, sans parents. Adding the children in might trip your plans up though, because grandparents don't want to miss out on time with the grandkids. So, why not see if the grandparents involved would babysit the children, while the young adults go out? Everybody wins.
It wouldn't bother me at all if my kids got together with their cousins, sans parents. Adding the children in might trip your plans up though, because grandparents don't want to miss out on time with the grandkids. So, why not see if the grandparents involved would babysit the children, while the young adults go out? Everybody wins.
That is putting them to work not involving them in the holiday.
That is putting them to work not involving them in the holiday.
The OP was clear the dinner was not on the actual holiday, just during the season. I #1 don't think parents need to be included in everything their adult children do, and #2, can't think of any grandparents who wouldn't jump at the chance to have their grandchildren for an evening.
The OP was clear the dinner was not on the actual holiday, just during the season. I #1 don't think parents need to be included in everything their adult children do, and #2, can't think of any grandparents who wouldn't jump at the chance to have their grandchildren for an evening.
Most grandparents I know have lives. They don't just sit home.
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